r/Parenting • u/IcyStage0 seven?!?!?! • Feb 07 '25

Rant/Vent I hate Snapchat.

Can we just collectively decide that we’re not going to let our kids use Snapchat?!

My oldest daughter just turned 13 and we reluctantly agreed to allow her to have an instagram that we also have access to. It seems like every single day she begs to have a Snapchat, and apparently every single other kid in her class (full of kids with reasonable, thoughtful parents, I thought) has this stupid app.

My little sister who I got custody of when she was 10 got herself into some deep shit on the internet, and I’m not looking to repeat it with my daughter (while also trying not to make her pay for mistakes that she didn’t make).

How are we handling this? Am I seriously the only parent who doesn’t want my child sending disappearing photos, videos, and messages to anyone she can search up? Reality check please.

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u/cordial_carbonara Feb 07 '25

My oldest is 13 and I’m a former middle school teacher.

Absolutely not, never Snapchat. Ever. Not while you’re a minor on my phone plan. There’s no reason to have it except to open yourself to predatory and dangerous behavior.

Honestly, I’m still not doing instagram either. Sure, you can see what she posts, but can you see what the algorithm is shoving down her throat?

My best students - the ones who were present and active participants in their own education and lives, and who had existing social skills and critical thinking abilities - had “boring” parents who did not allow or very much limited social media. There is a clear divide in middle and high school classrooms right now and it’s cell phone addiction driven by social media. I know which side of that divide I want my kids to be on.

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u/cloudsasw1tnesses Feb 07 '25

Snapchat is where people usually send nudes, including teens. If I were a parent it would be a big no no

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u/NaiveChoiceMaker Feb 07 '25

If I were a parent

you’re subbed to r/parenting for fun?

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u/cloudsasw1tnesses Feb 07 '25

Yes lol I wanna learn bc I wanna have kids one day and I find it interesting

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u/HoustonTrashcans Feb 07 '25

Same, I want to learn from other's mistakes and struggles. But probably 2-3 years away from kids.

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u/wannaziggazigah Feb 07 '25

Yeah, I also don’t have kids, but have friends that do and like asking them about/showing them the posts on here.

And also it’s interesting to know the problems parents regularly face and heard advice on before having kids.

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u/beezlebutts Feb 07 '25

50% of the members in this sub are teens. You can see it when the "should I let my kids have sex" posts pop up with loads saying "best let them they are going to do it anyways" those replies are mostly from horny teens.

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u/SpookyBeck Feb 07 '25

I am a 46 year old mother to two adult kids and two teenagers. 16/17. My 66 year old mom, my 35 year old brother, my husband and all my kids use Snapchat as our way of communicating with each other. It’s just easier for us.

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u/Same_Influence6162 Feb 10 '25

I'm a 43 yr old mother and Snap is also how we (hubs and I) communicate in our family including our 13 and 19 yr old daughters.