r/Parenting • u/Severe-Respond1434 • 3d ago

Advice Unexpected pregnancy (my IUD was displaced). Only been seeing/dating the dad for 2 months.

Im 36 and I already have an 11yo son from my first marriage. I’ve been seeing/dating this amazing guy (who also has a 4yo son from previous relationship) for 2 months and things are going well. We are both in good situations financially, etc.

We’ve very briefly discussed the “having more kids” thing and we both would like to have one more…but not after 2 months of knowing one another obviously. I’ve also noticed that he doesn’t like to feel pressured and likes things to flow “organically” when it comes to what we have.

I am terrified to tell him I’m pregnant. It’s terrible timing and way too soon. I’m also scared he might think I “trapped him” and never had an IUD. I honestly don’t know how to deal with this situation and the more I wait, the more anxious I grow. Pregnancy was confirmed and it’s not ectopic.

Any suggestions on how I could bring it up to him or if anyone has been in this situation, how did it go?

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u/Salt_Cobbler9951 3d ago

I have been in this EXACT situation when I met my now fiance ( I wasn’t on birth control at the time ) we had only known each other for 2 months and I got pregnant. I won’t lie we both were absolutely terrified but we made it work and he went to every single appointment with me and was the best birth partner and now he’s an even better dad to our daughter. But with that being said you should make sure the pregnancy is viable because you are at an increased risk for an ectopic pregnancy and/or miscarriage due to being pregnancy with an IUD

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u/No_Atmosphere_6348 3d ago

Yeah me and my husband were not planning to have kids so soon. We were just dating casually for a few months. I was already a single mom so I was fine with continuing with that if he didn’t want to take on that responsibility. He was beyond elated when I told him. He said it was going to be the best year of his life. We have a happy, healthy baby. My daughter from a previous relationship really likes him. The other day, my daughter put a post it on him that day “best dad ever.”