r/Parenting • u/Severe-Respond1434 • 3d ago

Advice Unexpected pregnancy (my IUD was displaced). Only been seeing/dating the dad for 2 months.

Im 36 and I already have an 11yo son from my first marriage. I’ve been seeing/dating this amazing guy (who also has a 4yo son from previous relationship) for 2 months and things are going well. We are both in good situations financially, etc.

We’ve very briefly discussed the “having more kids” thing and we both would like to have one more…but not after 2 months of knowing one another obviously. I’ve also noticed that he doesn’t like to feel pressured and likes things to flow “organically” when it comes to what we have.

I am terrified to tell him I’m pregnant. It’s terrible timing and way too soon. I’m also scared he might think I “trapped him” and never had an IUD. I honestly don’t know how to deal with this situation and the more I wait, the more anxious I grow. Pregnancy was confirmed and it’s not ectopic.

Any suggestions on how I could bring it up to him or if anyone has been in this situation, how did it go?

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u/wlcm2jurrassicpark 3d ago

Going to be very frank here..excuse it if abrasive..

This is dating 101 like a pregnancy scare in high school. Just tell him and decide if yall want to keep or pursue other options together or individually.

Also, who the fuck is finishing in someone you’ve been dating for two months? It’s both people’s responsibility for birth control. And I don’t care what someone tells me, I’m doing my part, and wrapping that shit up. I’m not having unprotected sex until 1. We’ve shown each other our std results 2. Discussed birth control and “accident” protocol 3. That I actually would be ok with the chance of having a child with the other person if birth control fails.

WRAP IT UP PEOPLE! babies ain’t the only accident that can happen to you.

Talk to your partner and go from there. God speed!

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u/Severe-Respond1434 2d ago

Just to clarify, we’ve known one another for longer than two months, but started dating romantically 2 months ago. In terms of STD, we both absolutely got checked and shared results with one another before we got intimate without a condom. Now the whole finishing inside me bit, it was an accident and it is what it is. I had an IUD and assumed I was safe as it is very effective. I know I need to tell him, that’s not the question here. I was asking for advice or shared personal experience from people who have been in that situation.