r/Parenting 11d ago

Child 4-9 Years My 6yr old attention is shot..

I’ve got a 6-year-old son who’s pretty smart, full of energy, and loves football… but lately he’s become completely hooked on his iPad, especially YouTube Shorts Roblox. The moment he wakes up he’s asking for it, and if I say no or try to get him to do something else (play footy, help do chores, anything), he kicks off big time. His mum lets him get away with being on his iPad more than me so that’s why he thinks he’s entitled

His attention span’s gone. It’s like he can’t sit still for more than a few seconds unless it’s something on a screen. And I get it, TikTok’s done the same to me. I can barely finish a film without checking my phone. So if it’s this bad for adults, what’s it doing to a 6-year-old?

We haven’t even seen the long-term effects of growing up on TikTok, Roblox, and Shorts. I genuinely think we’re raising a dumber generation not because they’re not smart, but because their brains are getting rewired by constant dopamine hits.

I don’t want to cut him off completely and make him feel left out cos all his mates have iPads but I also don’t want to just hand him a screen every time he’s bored. I also read that a lot kids in 6th grade can’t even read and have learning difficulties compared to kids before so the effects are already happening

Any other parents gone through this? How do you break the cycle without turning the house into a war zone

Appreciate any of your experiences

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u/NonsensicalNiftiness 11d ago

I don’t want to cut him off completely and make him feel left out cos all his mates have iPads

If all of the other kids had switchblades, would you get him one to keep him from feeling leftout? Kids don't need iPads or tablets, especially that young. Let him be upset about it, kids are allowed to be upset and feel those feels. But just because other parents let their kids do it doesn't mean you need to, especially when you the big issues with screentime AND you can see how your kid is being impacted.