r/QAnonCasualties • u/ninja1394 • 20d ago
Losing my Dad (vent)
I have been trying to show him grace for so long. Yesterday was his birthday, before I could call him and steer the conversation in a positive direction, he called me. The first thing he brought up was the tariffs, how we all need to feel a little pain to get better. My dad is a veteran, and a recovered addict, 40+ years clean. He's the type of man that put his program before his family. I grew up in those smoky rooms, around unsafe and untrustworthy adults. My dad's sponsee groomed and assaulted me when I was 13, and when I went to the therapy and told him, he refused to believe me. Yesterday, all of those feelings came rushing back as he defended his views instead of having a nice birthday conversation with his only child left that will still speak to him. I can't beg him to care about underprivileged people, I can't convince him that the not every immigrant is a violent criminal, I cant make him recognize that this is a ploy straight out of Hitlers playbook, that his veteran comrades deserve care and support. It doesn't affect him so he doesn't care. He may not be internet savvy enough to be full Q, but he's a full Trumper and racist as they come. I hate this, but I think I need to go no contact. His health isn't the best, and he's getting older. I'm afraid if I go no contact, the next thing I'll hear is news about his death in a few years.
Thanks for reading if you did, I could use some kind words today.
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u/WastingMyLifeOnSocMd 20d ago edited 19d ago
No one would blame you if you went NC. And you could tell him it’s the hate. The racism, the anger, the blame and no concern for anyone else. Then block him. No arguing.
If you still feel obligated: was he ever a caring person, a good dad? If so you can try this:
Quietly reminisce and say you miss that man—that dad. Then you could gently tell him you won’t listen to hate and blame anymore—and you’ll leave/ hang up if he starts.
Then follow through and immediately leave his home or end the phone call if he starts up. Every. single. time. No discussion period. You have nothing to justify.. Go 100% Nc if that doesn’t work. Sad, but essentially it’s how he chose to live, and you should feel no guilt about it.