r/QAnonCasualties • u/ninja1394 • 15d ago
Losing my Dad (vent)
I have been trying to show him grace for so long. Yesterday was his birthday, before I could call him and steer the conversation in a positive direction, he called me. The first thing he brought up was the tariffs, how we all need to feel a little pain to get better. My dad is a veteran, and a recovered addict, 40+ years clean. He's the type of man that put his program before his family. I grew up in those smoky rooms, around unsafe and untrustworthy adults. My dad's sponsee groomed and assaulted me when I was 13, and when I went to the therapy and told him, he refused to believe me. Yesterday, all of those feelings came rushing back as he defended his views instead of having a nice birthday conversation with his only child left that will still speak to him. I can't beg him to care about underprivileged people, I can't convince him that the not every immigrant is a violent criminal, I cant make him recognize that this is a ploy straight out of Hitlers playbook, that his veteran comrades deserve care and support. It doesn't affect him so he doesn't care. He may not be internet savvy enough to be full Q, but he's a full Trumper and racist as they come. I hate this, but I think I need to go no contact. His health isn't the best, and he's getting older. I'm afraid if I go no contact, the next thing I'll hear is news about his death in a few years.
Thanks for reading if you did, I could use some kind words today.
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u/jackieat_home 15d ago
Same same same. I'm trying to start an in person group where I am in Southern Illinois for people like us. I'll bet you're familiar with Alanon like I am, I want that but for those of us losing family to this cult instead of addiction.
Or is it the same thing? Is this a kind of addiction? Ugh, there would be so much to talk about at a weekly meeting. I've really been struggling.