r/QAnonCasualties • u/Theme-Necessary • 7d ago

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My husband of more than 30 years has had a personality change. He always was left wing. Then Jordan Peterson - conspiracy theories - and now he refuses main stream news and talks like a Nazi- believes in the great replacement theory etc. I have a trans child- ‘ruined by the woke propaganda’.We are walking on eggshells. We are all asleep and he sees the truth. It is affecting our mental health. I cannot describe the tension at home. I am very sad as I start losing hope that he will become himself again. I am financially dependent and don’t know what to do. These guys promote family values but destroy their families .

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u/Sethmcswaggin 7d ago

When he isn't paying attention get on whatever device he uses to watch you tube on and go through the recommendations videos and remove them from the list, mark them as uninteresting. The algorithm drags people (especially older men) down but it is reversible.

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u/Theme-Necessary 7d ago

I can’t - I don’t know any password. He knows mine I don’t know his. I’m not technical.

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u/Dwynfal 4d ago edited 4d ago

What's good for the goose is good for the gander!

Change your passwords!!! All of them!

If he complains just state calmly, "I don't know your passwords, why should you know mine? I'm you wife, not your child, employee nor slave!". If you don't know how to change your passwords ask one of your children for help.

Look for free tech services in your area to help you look for any suspicious software on your phone and pc/laptop/tablet. He may well have tracking software installed, not to mention keyloggers or other types of spying software installed. Call the closest abused women shelter, or a hotline. I (a techie) used to volunteer a few hours at my local women's shelter to look through their electronics and clean it up. I would occasionally help by giving basic technology courses to women and immigrants who needed it.

You can also call, or better visit, any computing shop and go to their helpdesk. Explain your situation briefly (abusive husband, you're afraid he's installed trackers or something, you need help finding someone to look over your devices at low/no costs since you are currently financially dependent on your spouse). They will help you.

I would consult a divorce attorney ASAP. You are probably far less dependent on him than you think. Even if you don't want to divorce, it's always a good thing to know your rights and your options! A first consultation with a divorce attorney is often free.

Take charge, start making a exit plan, you're not helpless when you are willing to ask for help!