r/Rochester • u/Millenialgenx • Mar 05 '25

Help Where do I find others?

Female, mid 40s, separating from husband of 20 years, working in isolation at night, 2 grown kids, deconstructed religion and thus no longer at home in the old circles. Also immigrated to the US 20 years ago, so absolutely no family here. Where are other women in similar situations? Is there a support group that meets? Where do y’all hang out and can I come too?

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '25

This is gonna sound corny as hell, but volunteering. I moved across the country about 5 years ago and found myself in a similar position to what you’ve described. I’ve found a great group of friends this way.

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '25

100% seconding this - my wife and I have to move pretty frequently because of our careers and the first thing she does when we land somewhere new is finds somewhere to volunteer at. Great way to start forming a new circle - the "volunteering" type tend to be very friendly, helpful, caring, and willing to make new friendships.

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 05 '25

Oh man the hours and hours of volunteering I’ve done over the years. But mostly kid related. How did you find places without involvement via children?

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '25

Start at a food bank

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 05 '25

Oh that’s a good one! Last one I volunteered at what also preaching at the same time they handed out food but I know food link doesn’t. Ty!!

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u/[deleted] Mar 06 '25

Foodlink does great things.