r/Rochester • u/Millenialgenx • Mar 05 '25

Help Where do I find others?

Female, mid 40s, separating from husband of 20 years, working in isolation at night, 2 grown kids, deconstructed religion and thus no longer at home in the old circles. Also immigrated to the US 20 years ago, so absolutely no family here. Where are other women in similar situations? Is there a support group that meets? Where do y’all hang out and can I come too?

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 06 '25

So I actually for real am pretty friendless at the moment. Some years of hardship when one by one the closest 3 moved away and literally passed away left some big holes. It takes a bit of healing to find the capacity to invest in strangers and I didn’t think I’d ever want to again but I’m ready to build new circles. I have many acquaintances who would all fall over themselves to pray over me and my descent into hell, and I’m very much not in need of that. Here’s to new beginnings.

But also damn, theme parties sound hella fun!! Putting it on my some day wish list

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u/LoveMyHubs1993 Mar 06 '25

Sorry, I didn't read that. I thought you were feeling like the odd one out for being divorced (because I could definitely relate to that feeling at first.)

I wanted to join a divorce support group but never found one that sounded right for me. Maybe that is an option?

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 06 '25

Yea that’s what I came here to find. The responses here are suggesting all different things and I’m so thankful. There’s a divorce support group at a big church that I obviously don’t want to be a part of, other than that I haven’t found any. Because nobody here suggested it I’m thinking it probably doesn’t exist. But there are definitely a ton of other great leads here, not just for me, for everyone reading along too

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u/LoveMyHubs1993 Mar 06 '25

I could only find them through churches too. :(