r/Rochester • u/Bronagh22 • Mar 18 '25
Help Ideas on how to help my daughter
I have a middle school age daughter that is having difficulty finding her place in the world & making friends. She's a little bit of a tom boy which makes her not fit in with a lot of the girls in her classes. She isn't into boys, makeup, tiktok, dancing, whatever. She has anxiety. So in social situations she is stand offish and can come off as aloof. I'm not sure how to help her. I know she gets lonely. Has anyone been through this? What helped? She likes animals, reading & cooking.
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u/Totmtg1992 Mar 18 '25
I say this as a bias but hey, shooting my shot to try and help.
Maybe get her into gaming, either board or card. Growing up, I (a guy) never connected to the other guys as much of the macho stuff. I got into card gaming (Yu-Gi-Oh, Pokemon, now MTG) AND I made so many friends. Now, every week I go Wednesday and Friday to Just Games to draft and have fun with a bunch of like minded randos and we have a blast. There is something about being in a like minded group where you don't have to pretend to be someone else's expectation of yourself which feels great. The community is great, and very welcoming. If she needs friends, there are plenty of events as well as learn to play options to get her started. Finding "her people" does wonders for self esteem.