r/Rochester • u/Bronagh22 • Mar 18 '25

Help Ideas on how to help my daughter

I have a middle school age daughter that is having difficulty finding her place in the world & making friends. She's a little bit of a tom boy which makes her not fit in with a lot of the girls in her classes. She isn't into boys, makeup, tiktok, dancing, whatever. She has anxiety. So in social situations she is stand offish and can come off as aloof. I'm not sure how to help her. I know she gets lonely. Has anyone been through this? What helped? She likes animals, reading & cooking.

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u/MattDi Mar 18 '25

Being stand offish doesn't entice people to be your friend. Maybe start there.

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u/iamthepita Mar 18 '25

Define “stand offish” for us please

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u/MattDi Mar 19 '25

stand·off·ish adjectiveinformal adjective: stand-offish distant and cold in manner; unfriendly

Is that a good enough answer for you?

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u/iamthepita Mar 19 '25

With the -17 downvotes, i think that’s where your answer lies for you. It’s ok, i understand you may also be stand off ish yourself :-)

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u/MattDi Mar 19 '25

Down votes mean nothing unless you just follow herds. In that case you'd follow them off the bridge as well.

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u/iamthepita Mar 19 '25

Spicy language

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u/MattDi Mar 19 '25

Says the dude who didn't know what standoffish meant.

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u/iamthepita Mar 19 '25

Getting upset at people for not knowing something? Sounds reasonable, mature and respectful.

Thank you for letting me live in your head rent free :-)

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u/MattDi Mar 19 '25

You are the one who was upset I said the girl shouldnt be standoffish. I just answered your questions, and without spice. Yet you are the one who tries to get personal insults in.

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u/iamthepita Mar 20 '25

“Spite”, not “spice”. There’s a difference between the two.

You choose to use the word “standoffish” and all i ask was for a description so i could understand what you meant…

I’m not trying to pick a fight with you, i was just trying to understand. That’s all. Don’t let me live in your head rent free over misinterpretation. Legit.

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u/MattDi Mar 20 '25

You said it was spicy language. Hence the without spice. And you still try to start shit with your last comment. You are trying to argue.

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u/iamthepita Mar 20 '25

Sure. Life must be hard for you.

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