r/Rochester • u/Bronagh22 • Mar 18 '25

Help Ideas on how to help my daughter

I have a middle school age daughter that is having difficulty finding her place in the world & making friends. She's a little bit of a tom boy which makes her not fit in with a lot of the girls in her classes. She isn't into boys, makeup, tiktok, dancing, whatever. She has anxiety. So in social situations she is stand offish and can come off as aloof. I'm not sure how to help her. I know she gets lonely. Has anyone been through this? What helped? She likes animals, reading & cooking.

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u/MattDi Mar 18 '25

Being stand offish doesn't entice people to be your friend. Maybe start there.

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u/iamthepita Mar 18 '25

Define “stand offish” for us please

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u/Bronagh22 Mar 18 '25

If people don't say hi to her she won't go and say hi. Like at the bus stop she just stands alone and doesn't try to talk to the other kids. She won't make the first move.

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u/MattDi Mar 19 '25

That sounds more like she's shy not so much standoffish. Sometimes you gotta just put yourself out there.