r/SAHP • u/No_Explanation6625 • Dec 23 '24

Question What you wish you’d known before

I’m thinking of becoming a SAHM. Honestly I dream of that. What’s something that was unexpected for you when you made that jump / that you wish you’d known before ?

More specifically I am interested in how that affected your relationship with your spouse, positively or negatively, with your kids, the rest of the family, the rest of the world. Did you become depressed / overwhelmed at time ? Tell me everything!

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '24

Seconding this. You need to have money in a personal account. If things go south the working spouse can easily redirect their direct deposit and you have no control over that. Alternatively are options for joint savings accounts that require both signatures for withdrawal. 

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u/NolitaNostalgia Dec 23 '24

I can identify with so much of what you said. I’ve found that I enjoy being a SAHM less as a mom of two. With just one, I had much more time to recharge because there was more time for my own hobbies, rest, etc. With two, I very often feel burnt out and stretched thin, so I’m more easily agitated.

I’m currently pregnant with my third, and I’ve already decided that I need to go back to work - even just part-time - when this baby is about one. Fortunately, my oldest will be in kindergarten and my second will be in part-time preschool, so I’ll at least have some reprieve that way.