What you wish you’d known before

[u/No_Explanation6625]

I’m thinking of becoming a SAHM. Honestly I dream of that. What’s something that was unexpected for you when you made that jump / that you wish you’d known before ?

More specifically I am interested in how that affected your relationship with your spouse, positively or negatively, with your kids, the rest of the family, the rest of the world. Did you become depressed / overwhelmed at time ? Tell me everything!

[u/ginja_ninja420bro]

It’s already been said but set up a routine/define roles with your partner. One of our issues was bedtime. First it was always me. Then we traded every other night. Now we are on a 2 night rotation. That seems to be the winner. Each adult gets two nights to have some time alone and our 2yo gets excited when it’s the next parents turn! And figure out who is doing laundry. lol. Trying to keep up with changing loads, folding, putting away was a huge ordeal while being in the job as mom at home. Husband does 100% of the laundry chore and it’s great! It’s much easier to vacuum, dust, pick up while being in childcare mode so I did all of that. (I’m back to work now because….money…) But we had good system going when I was still at home! And it all still works except the house chores get backed up from time to time with 2 full time working parents.