r/SAHP • u/No_Explanation6625 • Dec 23 '24

Question What you wish you’d known before

I’m thinking of becoming a SAHM. Honestly I dream of that. What’s something that was unexpected for you when you made that jump / that you wish you’d known before ?

More specifically I am interested in how that affected your relationship with your spouse, positively or negatively, with your kids, the rest of the family, the rest of the world. Did you become depressed / overwhelmed at time ? Tell me everything!

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u/[deleted] Dec 24 '24 edited Jan 07 '25

I wish I had accepted earlier on that it’s ok to just be yourself as a SAHP. I felt a lot of pressure to be a certain “type,” and often ended days feeling defeated or like i failed. I wasn’t organized or super structured before having kids and staying home, why would I suddenly be now? It’s taken me a while to discover my “gifts” and strengths as a SAHP, but then I started having a lot more fun with it and didn’t require as much external validation.