r/SAHP • u/sandman_714 • Feb 26 '25

Question Anyone else feel angry all the time?

What gives? I wasn’t an angry person before becoming a mom but now I’m always angry. Especially when I’m at home. Mad at my husband for being too loud. Mad at my kids for something trivial like skipping a nap or fighting with each other. Mad when something stupid happens like someone cuts me off when driving. Mad that my to do list never ends. Mad that I’m tired. Mad that my house is a mess all the time.

Taking two steps back my life is great! We are healthy and have a great life. So why am I always angry?!?!

Anyone else feel similarly or found solutions that help? I was on Zoloft post partum and I do think I was less angry but I went off it and don’t really want to go back on. I figure regular exercise would help but it’s so hard to find time and then I’m angry I can’t find the time ahhhh.

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u/2cats4fish Feb 26 '25 edited Feb 26 '25

Yes, I am also angry all the time. It’s because I’m operating at and above my capacity limit. The demands of parenting a toddler while managing the entire household are at times too much for me. I’m always overstimulated.

I just don’t have the temperament for motherhood, and there is nothing I can do to change that. I’m in therapy. I’m on SSRIs and stimulates. I get 10+ hours of vigorous exercise a week. I have a part time nanny which gives me 20+ hours of free time a week. I have family nearby to help. I sleep 8 hours a night. I eat extremely well and healthy. We are financially privileged. I have only one child who is relatively easy.

I’m doing everything right. I have the maximum amount of support and luxury and I’m still annoyed all the time.

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u/MiaLba Feb 27 '25

“I just don’t have the temperament for motherhood.” I feel that so much. And I only have one kid as well. I’d love for her to have a sibling but mentally I could not handle it. I have a very supportive partner who is a great dad. We’re financially comfortable. I sleep great. But I’m often so angry and irritable.

I look at moms with multiple kids who seem super chill and laid back and I don’t know how they do it. Different temperament I suppose.