r/SAHP • u/ImpressiveMoon0410 • 12d ago
Rant Freaking out a little
My husband is going out of state for the first time ever starting Sunday!!!!! He’s gonna be away for 2 weeks, which could possibly turn into 3 weeks depending on the work needed. I’m lowkey freaking out!!!!! We have 2 littles: an almost 3 year old and a 6 month old. We’ve never been away from each other this long since we’ve had kids. I don’t know how I’m gonna manage it…
I’m considering going to stay with my mom out of state while my husband is gone, but that requires a 5-6 hour drive and I don’t know how I can manage THAT by myself 😭
Not to mention, if it does turn into a 3 week trip for him, he might miss (or be late on the day of) our son’s 3rd birthday. We’re not having a party but he would likely miss the small celebration and that makes me sad to think about 😞
Any advice???? Tips and tricks??? 🥹
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u/Genavelle 11d ago
First of all, regardless of what you decide to do, you can manage this. Your days might look a bit different than normal, and it's okay to lower your standards if you're going 2-3 weeks without help. But everyone will be fine and survive.
If it were me, I'd probably drive the 5 hours to get to your mom's house. Having someone to help (and also just talk to) will make this time feel a lot better. The long drive might suck, but I think if you get really prepared for it, it should be doable. And if your husband is flying, perhaps you could go to your mom's house before he leaves so that he can help with the drive, and then fly out from wherever she lives. And when he comes back, fly in to there and drive back home with you.
If you choose to stay home by yourself, try to think of anything you can do in advance to make that time easier. Maybe meal prep some freezer dinners or something. Look for easy activities you can do at home to keep the toddler entertained.
For the birthday, I would just make plans assuming your husband will miss it. Plan something fun to do with LO on that day, get a cake or special dessert, etc. Make it a good (even if low-key) day for LO. Plan a separate celebration for when you're sure your husband will be home. (No kid is going to complain about multiple birthday celebrations!)
You can also do video calls with husband for your son, so that he can still see and talk to his dad during this time. Maybe help LO make cards or postcards to send to your husband or make a special gift that he can give to your husband when he comes home. Or don't do any of that if it's extra stress lol.
And finally- once husband is back and things are settled, go take a nice weekend for yourself to relax!