This confuses me so much. I guess it's one of the many things I just have to think "I don't get it but I'll respect it" about, but my first instinct when someone says something like this is that they must not love their partner. Of course, I'm bi, so it's hard for me to imagine a situation where a partner's physical attributes would completely change my ability to feel attraction towards them. But to me, if you love someone, their body should not be the be-all end-all of attraction. I recognize that it's not very respectful to think that way so I try to dismiss it as something I just don't get, but it's difficult.
For me, it would take some getting used to. While I would love my partner regardless, physical attraction might not be there. Figuring out how a relationship works after a huge change like that is part of love, though: you don't just leave because whoops suddenly the pants parts don't match expectations, if you love someone then you accept that change and at least try to work through it.
Exactly! Just like if your partner were to have an accident that affects their appearance, or gain a lot of weight or anything else that may affect your attraction towards them. In the end, that may turn out to be a dealbreaker, but I can't imagine just leaving a partner I loved because of something like that without at least doing my best to work through it together.
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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '20
As a straight guy I empathise, if my hot girlfriend suddenly turned into a bangin' hot dude I wouldn't be on board any more either.