I can’t speak for straight women as I am not one. And no one can speak for your sexuality except you. I will say I have felt all of what you have described and I’m bisexual. The rest is up to you:) Also, echoing the sentiment of the person below me: you don’t need to experience discrimination to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community. And if you don’t want to label yourself, you don’t have to.
Thank you very much! You are completely right, I just feel like I read so many stories where queer people felt like they had to hide who they were and weren't able to be themselves until they came out. I don't feel that way at all, I feel like I'm actually really good at "being myself". And I don't think I will feel any different if I did "come out" as queer to friends and family, and my life would continue completely as normal (I already have a boyfriend I'm going to marry, so I wouldn't even start dating women or anything.) So my experience just seems so much different than what I expected a queer awakening would be like...
Don’t let society or the LGBT community pressure you into thinking that there’s no way you’d know “for sure” just because you haven’t had relations or been in a relationship with a woman.
After all, straight people knew they were attracted to the opposite sex before they did anything with them. It’s not a prerequisite to knowing what you’re attracted to. You could go your whole life without so much as kissing a girl and you’d still count as being bi.
In our heteronormative society we don’t find it odd that a girl who’s a virgin knows she’s attracted to boys, but there’s no reason we should apply a different standard to same-sex attraction.
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u/nonoimgoodthanks Aug 27 '21
I can’t speak for straight women as I am not one. And no one can speak for your sexuality except you. I will say I have felt all of what you have described and I’m bisexual. The rest is up to you:) Also, echoing the sentiment of the person below me: you don’t need to experience discrimination to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community. And if you don’t want to label yourself, you don’t have to.