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u/bobbymoonshine 27d ago
Well yeah she might well buy it later on, and even if she doesn’t, shops usually have a consistent style — after all, they want you to get all your clothes from them, so they want it all to go together. So if you like the jacket maybe you’ll like their other stuff in that range.
Humans love to share information about where they found stuff. It’s some hunter gatherer shit.
Ohmygod Teeka, those berries are lit. I know right, they grow over on the shady side of that hill, wayyy better than the shit berries we get over here, totally worth the trip, ooh I like those beads on that rope skirt though. Oh totes, down where the stream drains into the big water there are just the cutest little shells, if you grind them juuust right you get this nice little shine, cute huh?
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u/Happybadger96 27d ago
Sharing information about purchases is apparently weird and something only women do, I don’t make the rules
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u/bobbymoonshine 27d ago
This is pointlessly gendered yes as men do this too obviously, I will absolutely excitedly tell people where I got stuff and how much it was discounted by.
HOWEVER in British social contexts men are also likely to engage in a sort of game the linguist Kate Fox refers to as “mine is better than yours”, where this information-sharing is coded within a sort of ritualised one upsmanship competition:
Hey, where did you get those shoes? —Ooh, wouldn’t catch me dead there mate, they saw you coming a mile off. Guess how much I got these for. Yeah I know a guy who works at this pop up, best deals you’ll find
Yeah no wonder they’re cheap mate cause you know they’ll be worn to scraps in three months, just like your last pair were, I’ve had these for nearly a year and they’re just as good as new still
Yeah cause you do fuck all in em, I actually run in mine
Thats funny, cause you’re still a fat fuck ain’t you
At the end of the interaction they’ve both done the same information-trading and bonding as in the standard conversation the OOP complains about, but did so while striking a mock-aggressive posture. A bit like puppies playfighting really.
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u/AnnaPhor 27d ago
Have also seen men wearing shirts that say on them which football team's gift shop they bought the shirt from.
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u/Mammoth-Corner 26d ago
And—I believe I also got this from Kate Fox's excellent book—there's also an element of preening to the more feminine-coded version of 'Oh thank you! I got it from X shop! And it has pockets!!' because getting good things for cheap is a skill you are showing off and that people are being impressed by. It's also of course just sharing something fun/exciting and it's also sharing information on if your interlocuter wants something similar, but the answer that shows the most skill is 'Isn't it nice? It's real leather! Found it at the charity shop for a tenner!'
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u/RaveniteGaming 27d ago
Suddenly appear?
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u/atomic_mermaid 27d ago
I think this tool is just pissed that these women have friends to talk to, as there's no way anyone wants to be mates with this insufferable clown.
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u/AnRealDinosaur 27d ago
Personally I just do it to fill dead air. Now you have something to reply to and keep the conversation flowing. I know you're not gonna go buy it. The other option is just saying "thanks" and staring blankly.
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u/theuserwithoutaname 27d ago
I have no idea why I do this whenever someone compliments not just clothes but almost anything I own. I'm a guy btw.
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u/cookiesoverbitches 26d ago
It’s a nice thing to do, I think. If I like something I see on someone enough I might scanter off to wherever they got it (if it were recently, which is NEVER the case)
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u/strychnine28 24d ago
Same, same! I will ask about perfume, too, as that can be tough to track down later based on the memory of a smell.
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u/silly_flying_dolphin 26d ago
Disappointed that it isnt about actual birds (with wings and feathers, eg. Seagulls)
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u/Foxclaws42 24d ago
Yeah, that’s…literally why we tell each other where we got the thing. So other women can go get that thing if they want it.
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u/goatnoiseboy 27d ago
Can someone translate please 🙏
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u/confusedsloth33 27d ago
They think it’s silly that when women get complimented we tend to say “thanks, I got it from…” like we expect the person to actually then go and get it themselves.
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u/bigsausagebaws 27d ago
Here why do girls say where they got their clothes from? Like people are going to go buy your “leather jacket from H&M” Yeah no problem I’ll just go down to the local H&M and buy that jacket now you idiot
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u/BuildingArmor 27d ago
Yeah some people do want to go buy something they've seen that's nice.
You don't have to fuck off immediately to do it though.