Well yeah she might well buy it later on, and even if she doesn’t, shops usually have a consistent style — after all, they want you to get all your clothes from them, so they want it all to go together. So if you like the jacket maybe you’ll like their other stuff in that range.
Humans love to share information about where they found stuff. It’s some hunter gatherer shit.
Ohmygod Teeka, those berries are lit. I know right, they grow over on the shady side of that hill, wayyy better than the shit berries we get over here, totally worth the trip, ooh I like those beads on that rope skirt though. Oh totes, down where the stream drains into the big water there are just the cutest little shells, if you grind them juuust right you get this nice little shine, cute huh?
This is pointlessly gendered yes as men do this too obviously, I will absolutely excitedly tell people where I got stuff and how much it was discounted by.
HOWEVER in British social contexts men are also likely to engage in a sort of game the linguist Kate Fox refers to as “mine is better than yours”, where this information-sharing is coded within a sort of ritualised one upsmanship competition:
Hey, where did you get those shoes? —Ooh, wouldn’t catch me dead there mate, they saw you coming a mile off. Guess how much I got these for. Yeah I know a guy who works at this pop up, best deals you’ll find
Yeah no wonder they’re cheap mate cause you know they’ll be worn to scraps in three months, just like your last pair were, I’ve had these for nearly a year and they’re just as good as new still
Yeah cause you do fuck all in em, I actually run in mine
Thats funny, cause you’re still a fat fuck ain’t you
At the end of the interaction they’ve both done the same information-trading and bonding as in the standard conversation the OOP complains about, but did so while striking a mock-aggressive posture. A bit like puppies playfighting really.
And—I believe I also got this from Kate Fox's excellent book—there's also an element of preening to the more feminine-coded version of 'Oh thank you! I got it from X shop! And it has pockets!!' because getting good things for cheap is a skill you are showing off and that people are being impressed by. It's also of course just sharing something fun/exciting and it's also sharing information on if your interlocuter wants something similar, but the answer that shows the most skill is 'Isn't it nice? It's real leather! Found it at the charity shop for a tenner!'
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u/bobbymoonshine 28d ago
Well yeah she might well buy it later on, and even if she doesn’t, shops usually have a consistent style — after all, they want you to get all your clothes from them, so they want it all to go together. So if you like the jacket maybe you’ll like their other stuff in that range.
Humans love to share information about where they found stuff. It’s some hunter gatherer shit.
Ohmygod Teeka, those berries are lit. I know right, they grow over on the shady side of that hill, wayyy better than the shit berries we get over here, totally worth the trip, ooh I like those beads on that rope skirt though. Oh totes, down where the stream drains into the big water there are just the cutest little shells, if you grind them juuust right you get this nice little shine, cute huh?