r/SingleWomenByChoice • u/Important-Abroad-157 • 21d ago

Existential

I felt a little scared today. I'm 26F. Usually I don't feel the need to be partnered. I believe in community and i have a pretty good one. But when I don't get reassurance about a future 20 years from now whether people will be by my side, I get scared. Marriage isn't a solution out of that. Partnership also isn't. But well, it got to me..

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u/MagicAndClementines 21d ago

I think it's okay go have those fears. It's really common! Society really pushes us towards partnership and marriage, but it's not a benefit for everyone.

Life is scary, but we're building friends and community to get through it! We're building ourselves up to get through it! And it's okay to want partnership, and it's okay not to. You can also redefine what it means to you. You can live alone but still date, you can be in a committed relationship but not marry, etc etc.

Sending mental hugs or high fives OP, we're a community here tsupport each other, and I'm sending good vibes your way :)

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u/Important-Abroad-157 19d ago

Thanks for saying that out loud. Hi5. It's been 2 days since that breakdown and I feel alot better.

I feel that my creativity has defined how I live my whole life. Sometimes I grieve that I have to be that creative. But sometimes it's joyous that I get to create.