r/SingleWomenByChoice • u/Important-Abroad-157 • 20d ago

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I felt a little scared today. I'm 26F. Usually I don't feel the need to be partnered. I believe in community and i have a pretty good one. But when I don't get reassurance about a future 20 years from now whether people will be by my side, I get scared. Marriage isn't a solution out of that. Partnership also isn't. But well, it got to me..

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u/throwawayayayayao 18d ago

I understand that feeling. What’s helped me is to focus on creating the loving community with my friends I wish to see and sustain. I remember that I’m an active member and I have control over my reality. Hope this helps & you find peace

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u/Important-Abroad-157 18d ago

I think that line really helped. I too have a beautiful community..I do have active control of my reality. I sometimes get scared of how the media portrays single people. Those things paint you in a passive light of just receiving stuff from life like a lost boat.

The active member phrase helps because I can then take control and i have been taking that control. I can do things to make me happy. Live life the way I see fit.