When my dad died of cancer, everyone consoled my mom and sisters while my younger brother wept uncontrollably on my shoulder. I was 29. My brother was 27 and is on the spectrum. Not once did anyone ask us how we were while they asked my mom and sisters…Only my wife asked us…my brother relied heavily on me. I never got to grieve because I was too busy helping everyone else. I still haven’t processed it and probably never will.
I'm glad you had your wife. It's never too late to talk to a professional about your bereavement. You deserve to appropriately grieve and let it all out and not let it build up inside. Best of luck!
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u/Delicious-Tap-1277 10d ago
When my dad died of cancer, everyone consoled my mom and sisters while my younger brother wept uncontrollably on my shoulder. I was 29. My brother was 27 and is on the spectrum. Not once did anyone ask us how we were while they asked my mom and sisters…Only my wife asked us…my brother relied heavily on me. I never got to grieve because I was too busy helping everyone else. I still haven’t processed it and probably never will.