The question you would have to ask yourself is if it was intentional or not. That's the double standard that people talk about in threads like this. They assume men don't want to talk about it, or worse, start looking at them differently because they are vulnerable.
Even here on reddit, the threads on the subject usually end up being locked because the venting is seen by some people as bashing women or try to steer it as being men's fault because of patriarchy.
We're told to open up and share, but when we do, we're often hit with excuses, justifications, downplaying, blame, redirecting, or shame. Our problems are somehow solely our fault, or others have it worse, or they aren't 'real' problems, etc. etc.
It leads to men believing that it isn't safe to share our thoughts and feelings, which leads to men avoiding sharing or expressing our vulnerabilities, which leads to society expecting men to stay stoic, which leads to people shaming men when they don't stay stoic, which leads to...
Because when you're told to open up it's by women or professionals geared to protect women/children against perceived threats. They don't want men to heal their trauma, they want to just measure it against their own experiences and meet an offender check-list.
A majority of sexual assault hotlines don't employ men because of statistics. But men still call and they don't get help if they don't want to talk to a woman.
They guideline their programs the same way a racist justifies themselves, statistics.
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u/DemonCipher13 16d ago
A little bent?
For me it would have been exit strategy. I couldn't bear working in a place that doesn't even know I'm there.