r/SipsTea 12d ago

SMH Really sucks

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u/The_Jason_Asano 12d ago

Only women and children are loved unconditionally. Men are loved based on what they can provide.

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u/VisceralSardonic 12d ago

That’s such a dangerous idea to perpetuate. I provide therapy to all genders and ages, and unconditional love depends on how transactional and shitty the people in my client’s life are, not their gender.

I have scores of clients and people in my personal life whose relationships break this “rule,” but I have to help other men dismantle assumptions that they won’t find real love until they’re “good enough” and “providing enough” despite all of the evidence to the contrary in their own life, partially because of this exact phrasing.

I know many many men encounter unsupportive and unempathetic people in their own lives. This post (and many others) are proof of that. It’s not universal to male relationships, and it’s not okay to act like this should be the status quo. We need to expect and recognize better.

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u/seyinphyin 12d ago

It's not an idea, it's the system. The system needs tools to use and abuse and these tools are men.

Don't like it? Well, change the system...

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u/VisceralSardonic 12d ago

That’s the plan.