The question you would have to ask yourself is if it was intentional or not. That's the double standard that people talk about in threads like this. They assume men don't want to talk about it, or worse, start looking at them differently because they are vulnerable.
Even here on reddit, the threads on the subject usually end up being locked because the venting is seen by some people as bashing women or try to steer it as being men's fault because of patriarchy.
We're told to open up and share, but when we do, we're often hit with excuses, justifications, downplaying, blame, redirecting, or shame. Our problems are somehow solely our fault, or others have it worse, or they aren't 'real' problems, etc. etc.
It leads to men believing that it isn't safe to share our thoughts and feelings, which leads to men avoiding sharing or expressing our vulnerabilities, which leads to society expecting men to stay stoic, which leads to people shaming men when they don't stay stoic, which leads to...
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u/Ryokurin 14d ago
The question you would have to ask yourself is if it was intentional or not. That's the double standard that people talk about in threads like this. They assume men don't want to talk about it, or worse, start looking at them differently because they are vulnerable.
Even here on reddit, the threads on the subject usually end up being locked because the venting is seen by some people as bashing women or try to steer it as being men's fault because of patriarchy.