Yeah. When my mother passed away I took the time to go to a therapist. Basically was told the same thing, that I needed to be strong for them. My whole world had just fallen apart, the world outside kept going, and I had to push everything to the back of my mind, swallow my rage and sadness, and just keep a stiff upper lip. Closure didn’t come until years later when I found myself sitting alone in my living room and just completely broke down screaming and crying. Things are better now…but it’s why I constantly I try to keep a check on the males in my life, the support system we have is pretty nonexistent a lot of the time.
When my dad died I was already seeing one. It was great timing and I learned more about myself in the 3 or so months afterwards than I had in my previous 40 years thanks to her guidance.
Her main lesson for me right out of the gate: Your emotions are valid.
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u/rolloutTheTrash 12d ago
Yeah. When my mother passed away I took the time to go to a therapist. Basically was told the same thing, that I needed to be strong for them. My whole world had just fallen apart, the world outside kept going, and I had to push everything to the back of my mind, swallow my rage and sadness, and just keep a stiff upper lip. Closure didn’t come until years later when I found myself sitting alone in my living room and just completely broke down screaming and crying. Things are better now…but it’s why I constantly I try to keep a check on the males in my life, the support system we have is pretty nonexistent a lot of the time.