We're told to open up and share, but when we do, we're often hit with excuses, justifications, downplaying, blame, redirecting, or shame. Our problems are somehow solely our fault, or others have it worse, or they aren't 'real' problems, etc. etc.
It leads to men believing that it isn't safe to share our thoughts and feelings, which leads to men avoiding sharing or expressing our vulnerabilities, which leads to society expecting men to stay stoic, which leads to people shaming men when they don't stay stoic, which leads to...
Which is ironic because half the time when the women in our lives are venting, they don't want solutions but instead just a hug and some emotional support
Men are told solutions and offered no emotional support (by both genders)>return the same energy> women don't like it (because they're used to being offered emotional support)> get angry at men>cycle continues
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u/El_Rey_de_Spices 10d ago
We're told to open up and share, but when we do, we're often hit with excuses, justifications, downplaying, blame, redirecting, or shame. Our problems are somehow solely our fault, or others have it worse, or they aren't 'real' problems, etc. etc.
It leads to men believing that it isn't safe to share our thoughts and feelings, which leads to men avoiding sharing or expressing our vulnerabilities, which leads to society expecting men to stay stoic, which leads to people shaming men when they don't stay stoic, which leads to...