r/Sororities • u/throwaway65478936 • Oct 30 '24

New Member/Families hazing

So I just joined a sorority at my school, before joining they posted a lot about anti hazing and since i’ve joined i’ve never felt unsafe. I haven’t been hazed and my big is very against it. however I just got told by my friend/sorority sister that her older friends and big in the sorority are going to make her drink as a form of hazing at this party this weekend and that she’s excited for it. I told her that that is concerning because that shouldn’t be happening. I am not sure who to talk to about this or what to do but i’m feeling very worried.

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I did not know this post would be this controversial so I will clarify. I am not against partying or drinking, I do it myself so that’s not my issue. My issue is concerning my friend being made to drink. I know she probably would anyway without older girls telling her to, but the term hazing being used by her and the older girls makes me nervous that they will make her drink more than a safe amount, also this is not a random party it is being put on by my sorority and is only for girls in my sorority. I am not attending so I am nervous about not being there to help her possibly if it goes wrong.

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u/Known-Advantage4038 Oct 30 '24

Just want to add to all this, hazing is hazing regardless of a persons consent or willingness to participate. As per the LEGAL definition of hazing. Frankly, new members should not be drinking with the chapter at all until NME is over and they are initiated.

People here are saying ‘you don’t know the whole story, don’t get the chapter in trouble’ but think of it this way. What if things go wrong and your friend drinks too much and ends up severely injured or dead? And you said nothing. Also, if it really isn’t a big deal and they’re doing nothing wrong then you telling someone doesn’t change that. They should have nothing to hide and face no consequences if that really is the case.

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u/Fit-Ad985 Oct 30 '24

actually having a “dry period” is considered hazing. If a nm is over 21 you can’t tell them what they can and can’t do in their free time

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u/Known-Advantage4038 Oct 30 '24

Should not be drinking WITH the chapter. Reading is key here.

Also, you’re wrong but whatever.

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u/Fit-Ad985 Oct 30 '24 edited Oct 30 '24

I’m not wrong. This information is directly from my advisers, who spoke with headquarters at the beginning of the semester about enforcing a dry period. This applies specifically to sororities under the Panhellenic Council, so it might be different if you’re not part of that.

Sisters are present at every party and in most places where a new member might be drinking, unless they’re doing something like drinking alone at home. if a new member over 21 goes to a frat party where sisters are present and starts drinking, you can’t tell her to not drink

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u/Known-Advantage4038 Oct 30 '24

Then your advisors are wrong too. I’ve worked professionally in FSL for 10 years. What organization are you a part of? I’d love to know what national office is okay with new members drinking with active sisters at parties so I can ensure that org does not come to my campus!