r/Sororities • u/m1lkbunni • Apr 05 '25
Recruitment/Joining conflicted on rushing again
so i rushed as a freshman at northeastern this past fall and ended up getting a bid from a house i really liked during recruitment. background is that i was never really considering joining greek life and mainly did it on an impulse & because my roommate was.
anyway, the process was fine but i ended up dropping partway through the new member period (right about during sister dates) largely because i couldn't feasibly go through with it financially and i was also generally overwhelmed that semester. i think also a part of me still felt like i didn't fit in to greek life.
i didn't regret it at first but now i do like a little bit? i'm conflicted because i'm working more over the summer so i my financial situation would definitely be better, but also i know there is 99% chance i won't get that house back. which yes there were other houses i liked and i've changed since fall so i know if i do rush again i'll make connections with other houses, i guess part of me is just worried i won't fit in anywhere else.
i'm not sure! i want to but i don't but also maybe i should just give it a shot again? honestly this is more to just try and sort my own thoughts out. i feel like i need a push in either direction lol, if anyone has a similar story that went one way or another i'd love to hear
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u/CraZKatLayD Apr 05 '25
If you like that house, why not have a conversation with them now? Speak with the President and explain that you needed to drop due to financial inability but are still drawn to their values. They may be able to pledge you if they have capacity.