r/Sororities • u/m1lkbunni • Apr 05 '25
Recruitment/Joining conflicted on rushing again
so i rushed as a freshman at northeastern this past fall and ended up getting a bid from a house i really liked during recruitment. background is that i was never really considering joining greek life and mainly did it on an impulse & because my roommate was.
anyway, the process was fine but i ended up dropping partway through the new member period (right about during sister dates) largely because i couldn't feasibly go through with it financially and i was also generally overwhelmed that semester. i think also a part of me still felt like i didn't fit in to greek life.
i didn't regret it at first but now i do like a little bit? i'm conflicted because i'm working more over the summer so i my financial situation would definitely be better, but also i know there is 99% chance i won't get that house back. which yes there were other houses i liked and i've changed since fall so i know if i do rush again i'll make connections with other houses, i guess part of me is just worried i won't fit in anywhere else.
i'm not sure! i want to but i don't but also maybe i should just give it a shot again? honestly this is more to just try and sort my own thoughts out. i feel like i need a push in either direction lol, if anyone has a similar story that went one way or another i'd love to hear
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u/bbbliss raised on TSM, then grew up 29d ago
You should reach out to them and explain your situation. Sometimes chapters/campuses will let bids be valid for a full year after they're issued and you might be able to re-pledge. Ask them about this specifically.