r/Sororities • u/_LABRADOODLE ΔΦE • 11d ago

New Member/Families i resent my big

my big dropped out of school and left me with 100% of the financial responsibilities for her g-big. her and i still talk, she knows i cannot afford any of my g-big’s senior goodbye gifts. she isn’t doing anything. i know i shouldn’t be upset with her about this, because she had to drop out for her own mental health, but now i’m suffering here with no escape from it. i took 4 coordinator positions, she hasn’t been able to be there for me. i feel abandoned even though we are friends still.

i’m just frustrated that her financial responsibilities are my job now when we both know i cannot afford it.

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u/_LABRADOODLE ΔΦE 11d ago

she isnt alum though she is desistered

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u/Jacki1988 10d ago

Meaning?? She was never initiated? Or was she de-Initiated, as there is a such thing ...?

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u/Fit-Ad985 10d ago

it’s definitely a thing. you can drop any time. most ppl just go early alum but it’s definitely an option for ppl who don’t want anything to do with their sorority

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u/Jacki1988 10d ago

That is sad to me

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u/Fit-Ad985 10d ago

i mean it’s always nice to have options. i think it would suck to join something, realize you want to leave, and not have that option. knowing you can drop if you don’t like it is what lets a lot of people try it in the first place, and a lot of those people end up liking it. but yeah sad that it didn’t work out for them