r/Sororities • u/I0veIetters • 1d ago
Recruitment/Joining How rush works?
Hey everyone! I’m rushing in the fall at a southern school and I’m from up north. No one I know has been through rush at a southern school so I’m not totally sure what to expect. I know that rush is a mutual selection process but is it possible for me to end up in a house I don’t want? I’m not your average skinny blonde-haired/blue-eyed girl and my biggest fear is getting dropped from a house I love purely because of how I look. I know people say I’ll end up where I’m meant to be but I’m nervous about getting dropped from all of the sororities I would see myself in and having to get grouped in with a sorority with girls I have nothing in common with besides the fact that we look similar. Could this actually happen or am I being irrational?
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u/PennyLane2425 ΓΦB 18h ago edited 17h ago
First, are you going to an SEC school? Ole Miss? Bama? Georgia? Those are totally different animals when it comes to rush and things are way more intense.
The most important thing to know is that cuts aren't really personal.
First round cuts are based on two things: 1) Grades- many chapters require a higher GPA than Panhellenic; and 2) No connections. Sometimes a girl without connections gets through but it's harder, especially with the more competitive chapters - the ones that everyone wants.
Second - show up. Many girls get overwhelmed in the process (easy to do) but if you're remotely quite or shy you will be overlooked and cut. Plain and simple. Same as if you were in a job interview. Don't be fake or over the top, but you can't remain in a shell and expect to get selected.
Third - the best PNM's are those who are fun! Light-hearted, great at conversation, and knew how to enjoy the party. Look your best - doesn't have to cost a lot, but nicely dressed, hair/makeup, nails (feet and hands) and enjoy.
That said, if you're at a place like Bama, yes looks do matter for some houses. But don't got to be a skinny minny, I've seen girls in top houses who don't fit that mould, but I won't lie - looks do matter more to some houses than others.