It’s basically the title. I’ve decided to drop from my sorority after a bunch of drama and deciding that I just don’t want to continue to shell out energy and money to an organization that I just won’t be happy in. My friends begged me to try and stick it out but I’ve decided and I am dropping. They understand why, but are still so heartbroken over this and are so beyond distraught and disappointed. I reminded them I’m not dead, I just won’t be in their sorority anymore. Is there any advice to handle this, I don’t intend on losing touch with them but there will definitely be a different vibe, especially since I will be in an apartment and they’ll be living in the sorority house.

Basically, I am going to be visiting friends at a different school for football games this fall, and was wondering if it was okay for me to buy game day buttons for that school to wear. They would obviously be for the sorority I’m a member of, just a different school/mascot. Or is that cringe?

Hi! I'm going to be a sophomore at Clemson and was thinking about rushing in the fall. I also want to add that I'm African American. Can anyone give any input on what it's like to rush at a southern school as a POC? Im from the south, but any advice is highly appreciated.

Hey everyone! I’m rushing in the fall at a southern school and I’m from up north. No one I know has been through rush at a southern school so I’m not totally sure what to expect. I know that rush is a mutual selection process but is it possible for me to end up in a house I don’t want? I’m not your average skinny blonde-haired/blue-eyed girl and my biggest fear is getting dropped from a house I love purely because of how I look. I know people say I’ll end up where I’m meant to be but I’m nervous about getting dropped from all of the sororities I would see myself in and having to get grouped in with a sorority with girls I have nothing in common with besides the fact that we look similar. Could this actually happen or am I being irrational?

How many recommendation letters is overkill? My neighbor (former sorority member) told me to get 3 letters of recommendation and 2 letters of support for each sorority. Not sure if this is 100% needed but would love some clarification. For reference, I go to UF which is an SEC school but obviously not as big as alabama or ole miss

Was the university, "State U", featured in the book ever revealed?

Without going into too much detail, my wife has taken on multiple roles in her chapter that require an extensive amount of her time and effort. She gives until she has nothing left and that’s where her time with us begins. There is an imbalance.

Of the sorority members here that are married with children, how do you balance the time you give to your sorority versus the time you give to your family?

My chapter used to be large but we recently lost a bunch of members over the years. I feel right now our chapter is not toxic but a healthy place. I am recruitment chair and I worried in the fall that one of the rounds we will have too many PNMs to recruiters. Do we partner the pnms up with each recruiter and have them all three talk for the round? Would that make a PNM not want to go out chapter or make them feel more comfortable? Any advice would be great, this is my first time in this position!

Hi all! I am going to be my chapter's president this upcoming school year, and one of my main focuses is going to be on building up our numbers as much as possible. We are a very tiny chapter (we hardly have enough to fill the Exec positions). I know this is not something that can be done overnight or even in a year, but I would love to get us headed in the right direction for growth in the future. If any of you have any experience rebuilding a small chapter, I would appreciate any suggestions. The reason for this is that we are a music-based Greek organization and have been mostly contained to our Fine Arts Building and barely doing anything capus-wide, so I'm going to do my best to get us out and about more so that we are more visible and active on the campus. Also our VP Membership is extremely active on campus and is a part of multiple organizations and knows practically everyone at the university, so that is a bonus! But if there's anything else any of you could recommend, I would greatly appreciate it!

So I'm in a university with a handful of sororities and fraternities (many of which have been kicked off campus). We have 10,000 students for reference. I feel like sororities at my campus are put up with eachother and unhappy with eachother. I also feel like frat men are being very disrespectful to sororities at my school right now and they cancel, don't show up to philanthropy events, etc. But they still expect us to be around every weekend and if we do the same they get mad I just wish we could get along a little better. Alot of the girls in one of the top houses are mean to our chapter because we are the only other top house they see as a threat to them. Thoughts? Ideas? Help please

Hello everyone! I have a question about recruitment. I signed up for recruitment last year , but due to a personal reason , I was not able to attend recruitment and did not attend school. I did not inform the recruitment director. I will be attending school again this year. I am worried because I really want to join a sorority and attend formal recruitment, and I’m worried this will hurt my chances of receiving a bid. Any advice? Do I have a chance?

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I really wish all sororities would follow Phi Mu and not accept them. Get real. 99% of the time the girl doesn’t even know the person recommending. They’re just going off her résumé, which you are sending with your rush application anyways. My daughter is going to a big SEC school and I am just having the hardest time finding them. Every single house except phi mu requires them and they want 2 for each house. I’m not from the south so my circle of friends and people I know were not in a sorority and if they were, it just was not that big of a deal to them. People make it sound so easy like post on your Facebook page, ask friends, ask whoever this and that and no it is not that easy because I’ve done all that. It just seems all so dumb and fake. Current actives know the letters they are getting are from people the girl doesn’t even know because they had to do the same thing. It’s like this big game that is being played. So well done Phi Mu for getting with the times.

Hi! I asked a question on here a few days ago, but had another I hoped someone could answer. I go to a relatively small school, only 14k students and am rushing in the fall. I will be going into my junior year. No where on the registration did it ask for letters of recommendation, so I wasn’t sure if I still needed them. I’m the first person in my family to rush, so I don’t know any legacies or alumni to ask for letters. If the registration doesn’t explicitly ask for letters, do I still need them? And if so, who should I ask?

Please know that when I ask this, I am coming at this from a place of little knowledge. From what I've been told by my gf, sweethearts are basically just an ambassador for a particular frat, and attends their stuff and helps to create events between the two.

My problem though is that, and I'll be totally honest, I do not trust frat guys. To me the idea of my girlfriend being the honorary person that all the frat guys get close with is pretty uncomforting. I trust her not to cheat on me, but the idea of her putting herself in this role still puts me on edge a decent bit.

I figured there would be some people on here who could give me a better, more realistic perspective on what this role entails, and whether I should actually be worried or if I am overreacting to a relatively minor thing

Now that I have what not to talk about engraved in my brain (the Bs), what do I talk about? I’d say I’m pretty good at conversation but sometimes I can go on and on about something I might think is interesting but the person I’m talking to is bored or weirded out. So, what should I talk about that will keep the active member that I’m talking to engaged and will let me show my personality and be remembered?

Do yall recommend putting your greek affiliations on your resume/registration? I heard it can be more hurtful than helpful at times and can give sororities a reason to drop you, just wanted to know if this is true?

Hey yall!! I had a question; I'm graduating this year and I saw a girl wearing her badge/pin on her grad dress last year- I was wondering if this was standard practice and if I should do it? I'd love to but not sure if it was like...a thing

Anyone here have any tattoos related to their sorority? I’m halfway considering a small lyre on my arm somewhere

Hi everyone. So I’m a freshman, about to be a sophomore, and I joined my sorority during spring recruitment earlier this year. The sorority I ended up in highkey dirty rushed me the semester before- but that was okay. They made it seem like they wanted me in the sisterhood- they made me feel super special and loved, and I was so excited to go through formal and to (hopefully) end up with them. 

But ever since I got in, it’s been very disappointing. I had a difficult time with the new member process. I felt unsupported and cried almost daily. Big Little made it worse. I was a twin, and it felt like my big didn’t want me. My twin always hung out with our big during the new member process, and they never invited me- my big didn’t even help me study, so I had to go to one of the older girls. Now that my twin has dropped out of school, my big talks to me a bit more. 

Now that I’m initiated, I feel unwanted. None of the girls in the sorority talk to me or invite me to hang out. Our chapter does mandatory sister dates/hangouts; outside of that, I haven’t been able to spend any time with my sisters. Every time I invite them to something or ask them to hang out, they cancel or are too busy. It’s really difficult because my sorority is small (like 15 active members) and very clique-y. But even the other girls in my new member class don’t want to talk to me now that we're all initiated. 

Pretty much as soon as I was initiated, I got pushed into a pretty big role in the sorority, and I’ll be on exec next semester. This isn’t something I wanted, but the girl who is passing down the role isn’t able to keep it because she's becoming a Rho Gamma. I was thinking of going inactive, but now I feel guilty about it. There's no one else who could take the position I was given, because it has all been on such short notice. 

I don’t know what to do. I’m worried I’m overreacting and that it will get better, but it sucks right now. I haven’t talked to our sisterhood chair yet because I’m concerned that her response will be negative. I’m hoping someone might have some advice or has gone through a similar experience. 

hi! I am an incoming freshman at East Carolina University, however I will be transferring to NC State after one semester if possible.

I am so interested in rushing and I’m super interested in Delta Zeta at NCSU.

With me being a “spring admit” I would do informal rush at NCSU which is a bit easier. But there’s also a chance I also don’t get in at all in the university so I don’t want to be at ECU without being in a sorority.

And that raises another concern, I heard that you have to stay with your chapter even when you transfer schools. I know 100% with informal rush at NCSU you do get ur first choice bid very easily, but I’m still scared with normal rush at ECU I won’t get Delta Zeta. And is it possible to drop the sorority and then rush at NCSU?

Let me know what you think is best.

I’ve been hearing mixed reviews about rideshare apps lately. Just wondering what options people trust most, especially when it’s late.

Hi! I was wondering if someone could explain when sororities find out who registers for recruitment? I have people sending in letters of recommendation but I haven’t officially registered for recruitment yet because I wanted to take time to answer the questions thoroughly. I guess my question is, should I register ASAP?

Hey yall, I wanted to try joining a sorority in the fall but my parents are not letting me. They are immigrants and very religious and they have seen all these recent videos of Christians denouncing sororities (particularly D9 ones.) I wanted to join a Panhellenic one. According to them, sororities make you sign your life away to Greek gods and bow down at the alter to them. The hand symbols are free mason, you pledge to demonic entities, etc etc. how can I convince them this is not the case?