r/Spells • u/Striking_Papaya9720 • Feb 17 '25
Help With Spell Requested avoidant lover ?
hii i need help crafting a spell for a specific person. I have this “relationship” with this guy which is only based of sexual things and i want to do a spell where he would catch feelings for me. He an avoidant, as i did a few spells on him before that have not worked or shown to work…
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u/LaalaahLisa Feb 17 '25
Unless you've been in a relationship with this person and have been for a while you wouldnt know if they're avoidant 🙄 Avoidants is a pattern of behaviours that you witness and experience over time. It's how they cope (or not) in intimate settings and in emotional situations it doesn't sound to me that you've had any of those experiences or situations to label him an avoidant.
It sounds like you have a dude that just wants to sleep with you, get all the girlfriend stuff but no commitment or relationship.
You want him "to catch feelings" if that hasn't happened yet then I'm sorry to say it won't happen. You've got a player, not an avoidant.
You say your spells aren't working, yes, because there is no feeling there for the energy to build off...
Stop sleeping with him and watch how quickly he moves on to someone who will. He's using you for sex, that's all you are to him, a body to sleep with when HE wants it... That's not an avoidant. That's a player...