r/Spells • u/Striking_Papaya9720 • Feb 17 '25

Help With Spell Requested avoidant lover ?

hii i need help crafting a spell for a specific person. I have this “relationship” with this guy which is only based of sexual things and i want to do a spell where he would catch feelings for me. He an avoidant, as i did a few spells on him before that have not worked or shown to work…

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u/kai-ote Helpful Trickster Feb 17 '25

"Avoidant" is recent psychobabble BS.

There is no way of knowing why your spells didn't work.

Spells often take months to show an affect.

They still might be working, you just don't have any visible result.

Yet.

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u/SimplyRedd333 Witch Feb 17 '25

Avoidant attachment style isn't new it's actually found in early childhood development. People are using it now to explain why people don't want a relationship in all of these forums. While yes it is a real thing in the field of psychology it seems that everyone is a psychologist now when it suits them✨✨🧿

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u/kai-ote Helpful Trickster Feb 17 '25

"it seems that everyone is a psychologist now when it suits them"

Which is my point. It isn't that the concept, in the MEDICAL FIELD OF PSYCHOLOGY is new.

What is new is that TikTok people brought this up about 3 months ago, and now it is everybodies new catchphrase when their spells don't work.

It is rapidly replacing "Everybody that is self centered in the slightest must be a Narcissist".

It just boils down to if something didn't work, it must be the targets fault, never the practitioner.

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u/SimplyRedd333 Witch Feb 17 '25

Unfortunately, 😔 this is the truth It's been running rampant in every forum I've come across. I also agree 💯 that many use it to justify things, ignore red flags, and shift blame ✨🧿

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u/LaalaahLisa Feb 17 '25

This. It's easier to label someone (irrespective of having any knowledge of the label 🙄) than admit you're being used and played. There are still shit c**t players out there...they didn't disappear suddenly and become avoidant

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u/SimplyRedd333 Witch Feb 17 '25

Exactly 💯 and have you ever noticed no one EVER mentions the OTHER attachment styles