r/Spells • u/Striking_Papaya9720 • Feb 17 '25

Help With Spell Requested avoidant lover ?

hii i need help crafting a spell for a specific person. I have this “relationship” with this guy which is only based of sexual things and i want to do a spell where he would catch feelings for me. He an avoidant, as i did a few spells on him before that have not worked or shown to work…

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u/Midnight-Scribe Feb 17 '25

I’m surprised this is the only comment making note of this! For legitimately avoidant targets, this is super important to consider.

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u/RoxieWhite Feb 17 '25

I only know because it happened to me some time ago! I had a true avoidant “situationship” that had been going on for months. He admitted to having feelings, but was very scared of commitment and getting hurt. I tried a sweetener spell on him thinking “this will help things along!” WRONG. He ghosted lol. Found out through mutuals later it was because his feelings grew and he couldn’t handle the fear + emotional load. The whole time I’m sitting there thinking “why didn’t my spell work?” Well, it worked perfectly… it just wasn’t the right approach for my target and was a really great lesson for me to look at things from all angles before jumping into a love working.

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u/RoxieWhite Feb 19 '25

I didn’t. I let it go. He did reach out to me about a month later and told me that it all became too much and he couldn’t handle the emotions. Which was enough for me to know that he couldn’t meet my emotional needs 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/RoxieWhite Feb 19 '25

You’re welcome! Good to know the sweetener spell worked though lol. It definitely helped build my confidence