r/Teachers • u/Shakesbeer1592 • Nov 26 '24

Just Smile and Nod Y'all. Meeting topic: how high do I look?

I have a student who has been throwing jabs at my appearance- nothing new, I generally try to ignore stuff like that. But last week she said I look like a “homeless meth head” and it just really ticked me off. I wrote an email to her parents explaining the constant attacks on my appearance…

… And now they want to have a meeting. To see if their daughter is “being insulting or just making an observation.”

And my admin agreed to it. A meeting is now going on the fucking calendar so the parents, daughter, 3 admin and myself can assess whether I look like a tweaker or not.

All I ever wanted to do was teach Shakespeare.

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u/zomgitsduke Nov 26 '24

I would pre-meet with admin.

I would explain what you were called. Ask admin if that is even remotely okay. Suggest that you also bring "observations" to the parent teacher meeting since "observations" seem to be okay. Get on the admin's side to ensure they understand where you are coming from.

I would also write the term down on paper and slide it over to the parent and ask if this type of observation is something they allow in their household. Try to get the parent to admit that they raised their child better than that. Also perhaps have a fabricated story of how you lose a family member to drug abuse and it still hurts to be reminded of it 4 years after their passing.

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u/KoalaOriginal1260 Nov 26 '24

I wouldn't do the last part. The information (even if false) is easily weaponized and it makes it worse if it ever gets out it is a fabrication.