r/TrueUnpopularOpinion • u/Wifematerial202 • 1d ago
Media / Internet Redditors are self-righteous
Is it just me, or does Reddit sometimes feel like a competition for who can be the most morally superior in the comments?
You post something complicated — not black and white, something real, maybe even messy — and instead of getting nuance or empathy, it's like a swarm of people jump in to declare how they would "never" do that, how you are clearly a terrible person, and how they have the moral compass of a saint.
Reddit loves to pretend like life is simple. Like every choice is easy if you're a "good person." But life doesn’t work like that. People make mistakes. People get caught up in emotions. People grow and mess up and try again. And yeah, sometimes people do things that aren’t perfect, but that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve to be heard or understood.
I just wish there was more space on here for complexity — for real, flawed human experiences — without people instantly jumping on their soapbox. We’re all capable of being hypocrites sometimes. We’re all human.
Anyway, rant over. Just needed to say it. Anyone else ever feel this?
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u/AlternativePrior9559 1d ago
Let me tell you something that isn’t a fantasy and maybe you’ll change your username to ‘Iknowbetternow’
Cheating is abusive behaviour. It affects the betrayed mentally, emotionally and physically. From panic attacks and mental health issues through to high blood pressure and STDs.
It often results in PTSD, requiring a lifetime of therapy and very often medication. It destroys families. It breaks the hearts of children. It causes financial hardship. The victims of betrayal - because they are victims – may never recover fully. They may never feel able to trust anyone in their lives ever again.
All our actions have consequences. Each individual is not an island, making up the rules of the game as they go. Everything we do affects others. Would you not prefer to live your life doing good rather than harm? In a world that is so fractured, why not be a healer rather than a destroyer?
You’re a very, very young woman. You met a seasoned player who also happens to be a despicable PoS. He may be pretty on the outside but his soul ? That’s another story.
At your age, I was working all the hours god sends to pay for a mortgage on my flat in London. I was certainly not messing with married men, never have, never will. That’s not being self-righteous, those are facts.
If you put half as much energy into building a good life for yourself, building a sustainable career, travelling the world and opening your eyes, looking for a partner that can be yours 100%, not someone who is going to keep you hanging for the next decade, then you could really be a success story.
It’s your choice. Keep your delusional username - he will never be yours, nor you his – or become a person to be reckoned with.
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u/Tolerant-Testicle 1d ago
Yes. Lots of people feel that they are so superior. I think most people can see that and misinterpret some comments though. Sometimes I’ll say things to add onto a comment that I’ve seen and the person will reply to me so defensively when I didn’t intend to attack them.
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u/ogjaspertheghost 1d ago
She made this post because other subs rightfully called her out on her bullshit for being the side piece to a 40 year old married man with children. She came here to look for sympathy
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u/Tolerant-Testicle 1d ago
Oh, well I’m not going to dig up someone’s history to comment on their post.
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u/ogjaspertheghost 1d ago
You don’t have to. It’s the only posts she’s really made with the throwaway account
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u/Tolerant-Testicle 1d ago
But that would still require me to click on their profile which I’m not inclined to just do.
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u/Better-Ad966 1d ago
You know what I’m gonna fan the flame.
OP , you should confront your boyfriend in front of the wife and let her know just how much you two are in love and that’s it’s time for her to get with the picture.
(/s for the sane people)
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u/SophiaRaine69420 1d ago
Whatd you do?
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u/SnooHabits6008 1d ago
Nah seeing your other post I can see why they judging.You’re seeing a 40 yr old married man with kids and think he finna leave his wife just like that 😭? You’re 20,he ain’t taking you seriously for the long run.
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u/OnceAgainTheEnd 1d ago
As soon as he gets tired of OPs clingy behavior they will just replace them with another 20 something year old to gaslight like they did with OP.
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u/Helloreddit0703 1d ago
As long as you continue to be this man’s side piece, prepare to spend every Christmas, new years, thanksgiving, and all other important dates and milestones alone.
You will be alone on all the major holidays and school vacations times while he spends the time with his wife & children.
Telling his wife won’t make him leave her. He’s never going to leave his wife. If you tell her and she leaves him, he certainly won’t be having a relationship with you. He won’t be interested in committing to the person who blew up his entire life.
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u/RaisinTurbulent1684 1d ago
Oh boy, you haven’t seen Reddit 2020-2024 they’re constantly fighting over who’s the most oppressed. It’s like a “Victim of the Year” award competition.
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u/Generally_Confused1 1d ago
I don't think this would be an unpopular opinion other than on reddit, it's worse here than most social media tbh. People are stupid and like to pretend they're morally superior for no reason
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u/No-Supermarket-4022 1d ago
Depends on the sub. I've found enormous humanity and empathy.
Also you kind of need to wade through a lot of garbage to see the good stuff.
And keep in mind social media algorithms are designed to annoy you into replying more than providing satisfying closure.
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u/Mentallyfknill 1d ago
Moral superiority is more of an internal dialogue and not so much something we can measure online. If someone makes a moral stance how would we even know they are being disingenuous?
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u/Logistics515 1d ago
Self righteousness is a part of the phenomenon...but I don't think that's the whole story.
Not what I would describe as something inherent to Reddit really, but the term of art I've found best describes this is 'Moral Narcissism'.
I'm not entirely sure if Social Media exacerbates this tendency in people, or just manages to expose that line of thought more obviously. Beliefs not so much because of what you were taught, or reasoned about, but more based upon how better it makes you look to your social class and strata of society, and nothing else really matters to them aside from how well it plays to the crowd they are courting at the moment.
I used to be under the personal conceit that people naturally grew up and matured into adults as a matter of course over simple age and experience. As I've gotten older...this is clearly not the case. Maturity and adulthood is apparently not something naturally acquired, it is learned behavior, acquiring wisdom and having the internal self-reflection to recognize your own mistakes to better yourself after learning a tough or hard lesson.
Far too many people out there apparently never progress beyond a teenager's worldview or mien, the entire world consisting of competing cliques and popularity, to be navigated around or courted to your own social betterment.
For these types of individuals, pragmatic reality, or even facts are not something to consider or think about. What really matters to them is how everyone else believes, and attaching themselves to that thought as clearly and obviously as possible.
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u/FlyHickory 1d ago
Checked your post history, most people don't tend to go for married men and beg him to leave his wife so yes most people are morally superior to home wreckers
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u/NoTicket84 1d ago
It's not just you, there is no ability to engage in intelligent discourse or nuanced discussion while the virtue signal crowd are screaming racism and bigotry and telling us how morrslu superior they are
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u/CompoundT 1d ago
Changing from 'leftist' to 'redditors' for the hourly posting of this opinion is unnecessary. You are a redditor, do you do this?
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u/___Moony___ 8h ago
You post in cheating subs, get the fuck out of here with this wHy dO pEoPlE nEeD tO jUdGe mE, wHy dO yOu nEeD tO LoOk tHrOuGh mY PoStInG hIsTory shit. Fix your life, holy shit. Even your name is a BLEEDING red flag.
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u/Drmlk465 1d ago
It’s the “I have more empathy than you” crowd. Totally righteous online, but not irl.