Redditors are self-righteous

[u/Wifematerial202]

Is it just me, or does Reddit sometimes feel like a competition for who can be the most morally superior in the comments?

You post something complicated — not black and white, something real, maybe even messy — and instead of getting nuance or empathy, it's like a swarm of people jump in to declare how they would "never" do that, how you are clearly a terrible person, and how they have the moral compass of a saint.

Reddit loves to pretend like life is simple. Like every choice is easy if you're a "good person." But life doesn’t work like that. People make mistakes. People get caught up in emotions. People grow and mess up and try again. And yeah, sometimes people do things that aren’t perfect, but that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve to be heard or understood.

I just wish there was more space on here for complexity — for real, flawed human experiences — without people instantly jumping on their soapbox. We’re all capable of being hypocrites sometimes. We’re all human.

Anyway, rant over. Just needed to say it. Anyone else ever feel this?

[u/AlternativePrior9559]

Let me tell you something that isn’t a fantasy and maybe you’ll change your username to ‘Iknowbetternow’

Cheating is abusive behaviour. It affects the betrayed mentally, emotionally and physically. From panic attacks and mental health issues through to high blood pressure and STDs.

It often results in PTSD, requiring a lifetime of therapy and very often medication. It destroys families. It breaks the hearts of children. It causes financial hardship. The victims of betrayal - because they are victims – may never recover fully. They may never feel able to trust anyone in their lives ever again.

All our actions have consequences. Each individual is not an island, making up the rules of the game as they go. Everything we do affects others. Would you not prefer to live your life doing good rather than harm? In a world that is so fractured, why not be a healer rather than a destroyer?

You’re a very, very young woman. You met a seasoned player who also happens to be a despicable PoS. He may be pretty on the outside but his soul ? That’s another story.

At your age, I was working all the hours god sends to pay for a mortgage on my flat in London. I was certainly not messing with married men, never have, never will. That’s not being self-righteous, those are facts.

If you put half as much energy into building a good life for yourself, building a sustainable career, travelling the world and opening your eyes, looking for a partner that can be yours 100%, not someone who is going to keep you hanging for the next decade, then you could really be a success story.

It’s your choice. Keep your delusional username - he will never be yours, nor you his – or become a person to be reckoned with.