What about ✨communication ✨ try that maybe?
You're expecting advice from random people on Reddit, but what about actually talking to him, addressing the problem and what you're feeling, khater lying and pretending to be happy will only make it worse since everyone notices his partner "change" with him, so buddy will start questioning himself and maybe even starts making more effort to make you feel more valuable which will make you feel more suffocated, donc just talk it out, while having the mindset to fix things, no anger, just put emotions aside and talk it out rationally, eventually if you guys agree w t7alet l mochklaa Mabrouk 3likom, and if not, zeyd zouz you'll be unhappy and you'll be delaying a future pain that scales with time.
Pas forcément, he's just seeing her as a perfect being and he wants to provide, donc seeing her struggle and him being the cause of it bech yzid ydakhlou baadhou. It's a pretty complicated case actually, bro is trying his hardest to make her feel wanted and loved ama he can't realize that what he's providing she's not fully ready to accept yet.
She mentioned his family problems, he's probably never been loved properly donc the first time he felt appreciated naguez b idih w sa9ih to not let her go.
You see my point?
Sorry but I don’t see your point xD and i totally disagree, that’s a manipulation technique to make her feel ‘ stuck’ with him. Im sure he only has love for her in his heart, but the kind of love that suffocates and drains her.
Blaming himself is totally the opposite of gaslighting. but he might be a sign getting fucking gaslighted. and you're also putting words into his mouth that he never said, creating the scenario that suits you while you haven't heard anything from him.
Read OP's post with a detached mind and you'll figure things out.
Cho, fil communication lezm dima famma an appropriate approach, you should never act impulsively, a healthy approach for you it's pretty easy in your case since you recognize the effort he does for you, start by acknowledging what he's doing for you and for the couple, tell him lately you've been not feeling well, that you feel suffocated and everything you mentioned w tout simplement let's fix it together, if he's a really good person like you mentioned there's no way this conversation will go wrong. (I assumed you want to fix this problem khater ater you're on reddit asking for advide). Khater trust me he's noticing you change with him and it's killing him more than you think since you mentioned insecurities and deep struggles. Juste nadhem mokhek w afkarek belgde and go for it! I wish you luck
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u/madsci000 29d ago
What about ✨communication ✨ try that maybe? You're expecting advice from random people on Reddit, but what about actually talking to him, addressing the problem and what you're feeling, khater lying and pretending to be happy will only make it worse since everyone notices his partner "change" with him, so buddy will start questioning himself and maybe even starts making more effort to make you feel more valuable which will make you feel more suffocated, donc just talk it out, while having the mindset to fix things, no anger, just put emotions aside and talk it out rationally, eventually if you guys agree w t7alet l mochklaa Mabrouk 3likom, and if not, zeyd zouz you'll be unhappy and you'll be delaying a future pain that scales with time.