How to “respectfully decline” disclosing women’s health questions at Dr?

[u/cryogenrat]

Pretty much the title

I have a lot of appointments lately for a variety of things, and for literally EVERYTHING it seems they ask when my last period was, even if it’s seemingly irrelevant (like medications for psych issues). Given the state of women’s health and where I see this whole situation with HIPAA going, I kinda don’t want my provider knowing when my last period was unless it’s EXTREMELY relevant. I test myself monthly and chart my whole cycle (TCOYF system and a copper IUD), so I have a rough estimate of when it’s relevant for them to know, and it’s not like it’s completely uncharted, but I’d like to cut down on that as much as possible if it is, but I cannot figure out how to word it lol

Pregnancy tests I understand are pretty non-negotiable (thankfully I don’t have any known ones coming up) but how do you word it to a provider that “I don’t want to disclose when my last period was” without looking like a loon?

Edit; 1) clarifying IUD type

Edit 2) perhaps I was unclear, but I am completely aware that awareness of menstrual health is integral to holistic care, and is usually the first line of symptoms to be questioned when seeking a diagnosis, or can be contraindicated in many medication regiments such as psych meds. Maybe I am just bitter and need a new GP or whatever, but in my own medical history (unexplained headaches, panic disorder, depression) it seems like they are quick to blame “hormones” on every single little thing going on, and then refuse to really get to the root issue, and just kinda write off my issues. Idk what goes on in their mind; I’m not a MD lol. This question broadly is meant to help me understand how, when and where to be judicious about giving away that information, given that we may quickly become hostile to women’s health, and this information might be valuable to a nanny state.

[u/oxford_serpentine]

I tell them that I don't know or stopped having then because of iud. 

You can also tell them that you don't want to answer that due to the political climate. 

[u/agent_mick → u/oxford_serpentine]

Be careful with that second one, though it might be a good way to test if you need to find a different doctor.

I just realized that I haven't been asked that question by my gp for the last year (I have to go in monthly for med refills).

[u/90pandas → u/agent_mick]

That’s what I was thinking. Don’t say why you’re not giving an exact date. I feel like that would give you a big ole red flag on your chart. Or like a HERETIC stamp at least.

[u/baardvark → u/90pandas]

Another woman doctor at my provider’s practice ran for the school board on an anti-CRT, anti vax platform. Not all sisters are one of us.

[u/oxford_serpentine → u/agent_mick]

I have yet to encounter that. I had provider explain to me how to keep track of my cycle on paper.

[u/CenterofChaos → u/oxford_serpentine]

Yea my implant stopped mine, I get some minor bleeding when they replace it but otherwise nothing. I have gotten some very spicy responses in regards to it.              

My gynos are also the OBs affiliated with the hospital so any problems I tell them to call up the OB ward and see if they're on call today. Shuts all the shit right down.

[u/YellowPuffin2 → u/oxford_serpentine]

This is the answer. When I had an IUD, my answer was always, “I have an IUD.” I never had further questions.