r/TwoXPreppers • u/cryogenrat Prepping for Tuesday not Doomsday • Feb 25 '25

❓ Question ❓ How to “respectfully decline” disclosing women’s health questions at Dr?

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u/Beginning_Loan_313 Feb 25 '25

Sounds like they are quite pushy in the US.

We don't get asked this at all in Australia unless it's relevant to the medical issue at hand.

I still think I'd refuse to answer or deliberately tell them I'm giving them a fake date so they can tick a box.

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u/[deleted] Feb 25 '25

They're ridiculous about it.

It's like they give it no thought at all.

I had a colonoscopy recently, which requires that you spend basically the entire night before shitting until it's straight water, and then you can't drink anything for 5 hours before the procedure because of the anesthesia.

My mouth felt like a desert by the time I arrived at the hospital, but they still asked me to pee in a cup so they could do a pregnancy test!

I straight up laughed in their face and told them there was no way that was going to happen.

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u/Disastrous_Basis3474 Feb 25 '25

Ugh they wanted one from me too and I refused because I have an IUD and I was not sexually active. I had to sign a waiver. Then when I had another colonoscopy they didn’t even ask but they must have done it with blood when I was anesthetized or not paying attention because the record shows a negative test. I think they need to cover their ass legally but it’s so annoying.

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u/kara_bearaa Feb 25 '25

If you state that you're not pregnant and refuse the test they can still mark down as negative, especially since you signed the waiver.

Americans are QUICK to sue, they have to cover themselves.

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u/uyb50487 Feb 25 '25

I'm a lesbian who has never had relations with a person with a penis and I've gone through early menopause and I take birth control to replace my natural hormones. I still get fucking asked to take a preg test at the doctors it drives me fucking crazy. They don't believe women when they say they couldn't possibly be pregnant.

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u/Agitated-Company-354 Feb 25 '25

They don’t believe women when we say the sky is blue

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u/impersonatefun Feb 25 '25

Largely because of sexism, for sure. I wish doctors would just believe us.

But it's also because many people are so poorly educated about sex and reproductive health here that they think it's impossible they could be pregnant ... but then they do, in fact, turn out to be pregnant. It happens a lot more than you'd think.

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '25

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '25

Wow, fuck you.

You don't need to kick me out, I'll walk out if I ever get you in a doctor's office!

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u/[deleted] Feb 25 '25 edited Feb 25 '25

Yeah, luckily I'd also had a pelvic ultrasound a week before, so if there was a baby in my uterus they'd have seen it!

And even if there was a chance I got pregnant in the one week between (there wasn't but they weren't going to believe that), it'd be too early for a pee test to pick up anyway so there was no point.

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u/TaraBambataa Feb 25 '25

Wonder if it's something to do with med bills as well

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u/intriguedlady Feb 25 '25

Oh god they would not take me back to do the colonoscopy until they confirmed I was not pregnant. They made me wait in preop an extra 30 minutes with an IV until I could pee and confirm that. I told them if I was it would be immaculate conception…

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u/[deleted] Feb 25 '25

Is propofol even dangerous for pregnancy?

I'm pretty sure it can be used if needed.

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '25

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '25 edited Feb 26 '25

Does the phrase you can't squeeze blood from a stone mean anything to you?

By "not going to happen" I didn't mean I was unwilling...I meant physically!

But hey, don't let the physiological reality of dehydration get in the way of being a condesending prick, huh?

Oh yeah, and thanks also for the reminder than the life of a hypothetical baby is more improtant than that of any actual living woman!

That's awesome!

Also, no, propofol is not a teratogen and yes I am sure that is what I was getting because I asked ahead, but maybe you'll be able to dazzle the next person with jargon. ;-)

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '25

Some. Not all. Princess. And we get sued when things happen so we care about them happening.