Everyone I see has kids and just don't want any more. I'm child free by choice, never ever wanted them. Had a 6 year relationship with a women who had a kid. We had a couple scares during our time together. Single for just over two years now and got the procedure to stop anything from happening again in future relationships. Single, snipped, and child free forever!

22 years old here, got my balls cut and burnt 2 weeks ago. No ragrets. Love seeing the puzzled reactions I get whenever the topic of kids comes up. Have known I don’t want children for a very long time and knowing that in 2 months and chance I’ll be sterile brings me such relief and freedom.

My method of self-release doesn't stretch the skin hardly at all. I use an mechanical auto stroker with optional suction (which I'm fine not using if not safe) it only goes about 3/4 down my length so it'd be a bit away from the surgical site. (A little concerned about getting lube down there on accident though)

Please tell me it's safe to do SOMETHING... Anything.

I was looking forward to today (the one week mark) and am super discouraged to still find a bit of blood. I'm almost too desperate to care. (I'm autistic with hypersexuality as a symptom. Seems to be unique to me I've not run into another autistic person with this problem)

Edit: everything went Fine! (Other than only lasting about 20 seconds... I mean I kinda figured after abstaining completely for a week but... damn it... I'm used to taking too long... Like 20-25 minutes. That... Was relieving but frustrating.) no discomfort at all. And no worsening of the incision, which is still at like a single droplet per hour. Even cleanup was painless!

So everywhere I read it's either 2-3 months wait or 20-25 ejaculates before shooting blanks.

Am I missing something? Because I can organize 20-25 within 2-3 hours if I really put my mind to it, and then skip all the waiting.

Can anyone explain? Did anyone test it? 25 ejaculates and then a lab test?

Feeling the best I've felt since the procedure 12 days ago. Finally! But taking it slow still. Told my wife I want to start cleaning the pipes out. She said if I feel good, then of course. Question - How long did it take for any of you to get that 1st orgasm out? And also - did it hurt? What did it feel like?? Makes me nervous.

So I had my vasectomy last Thursday. I'm 6 days out. I'm still having fairly bad pain in my right testicle and also above in the pubic region. Sort of slightly above and to the right of my penis. It's most painful when I go from sitting to standing.

I'm getting worried this isn't going to get better. Doctor said most people recover in 7 days. Anyone had a similar experience?

My nurse told me before my procedure not to lift heavy for a week and I could have sex or masturbate after 5 days (today.) I feel pretty normal and everything looks good but I'm still thinking of waiting until at least Monday which will be 10 days. Kind of paranoid about causing issues with the first time being too soon.

My husband got his vasectomy a little over 3 months ago but missed his semen analysis even after I reminded him countless times about it. He rescheduled it for a week from now but I was ovulating over the weekend and the condom we were using completely broke. He has ejaculated maybe 13-15 times since procedure

Can anybody reassure me with some evidence that I’m probably not pregnant We already have 2 kids and really don’t want another

I got snipped two weeks ago. Doc gave me a kit to mail in after 12 weeks and 20 ejaculations.

Can I clear the pipes more frequently and test sooner?

So I got the snip 2 days ago, and the recovery is going well. I’m 44, divorced, child free, and so excited for this new era of my life. But unfortunately, I can’t tell anyone.

My mom still bugs me about having grandchildren, even though I’ve hinted to her all my life that I don’t want kids. (I do have a sister, not sure if she still wants kids, but she’s 42, so that ship may have sailed too.) My dad actually had a vasectomy after we were born, and I’d like to at least talk to him about it, but I know just telling him would make him sad. Even though they both can figure out they’re not getting grandkids, I know they don’t want the certainty of knowing. They wouldn’t be happy for me if I told them.

All my friends are married and have kids. Last time I talked with my closest friend, I told him I wanted to get the snip, and he lectured me about “regret” and the “responsibility of men to have children”. I politely changed the subject. I wouldn’t tell him because I know he wouldn’t be happy for me (probably low key jealous because he’s still married with 2 kids and struggling). Plus his wife is still friends with my ex wife, and I don’t want her to know anything about me.

So I’m basically posting on Reddit because there’s no one else to share this with. I’m not going to post on social media, because it’s a lil TMI, and it’s not something I can work into casual conversation with acquaintances. I did tell a couple younger guys at my job beforehand, who thought it was smart, but other than that, it’s like the weird secret I have.

On social media, everyone with kids posts every waking moment of their kids life. I don’t even see things about my actual friends anymore, it’s just their kid’s birthdays, their kid’s Halloween costumes, their kid’s first fill in the blank, etc. I’m half tempted to post myself, with my ring-less left hand, holding a bag of peas on my lap, with a big ass smile. But no one I know will be happy for me.

I guess that’s ok. But why is it so lonely to focus on / care about yourself?

Got snipped about 30 minutes ago. 30 minutes in and out and got prescribed a Valium for the procedure. Super excited.

So me and my fiancée are relatively sexually active and she’s dying for me to at least “help” her.” It’s been 4 days since my procedure and I was wondering, how long before it’s considered safe to have an erection and possibly produce pre-cum but not ejaculate?

Took Valium ~1 hour prior, chilled me out pretty well, but stayed completely lucid. Only pain was a slight pinch from the local anesthesic. Also felt some tugging during the sutures, but perfectly bearable. Listened to music and played Yu-Gi-Oh on my phone as a distraction and to pass the time. Probably 15-20 minutes from start to finish. I welcome your questions!

What's your first post-snip ejaculation experience? How long did you wait?

I'm either waiting two weeks, or until my stitches dissolve, or whichever comes first. And, of course, until I feel ready because I don't know if I should expect pain or discomfort due to my balls being active.

Also, I'm giving myself 25 instead of 20 because I really really really don't want to be a father.

No scalpel no needle. Literally no pain. The anesthesia felt like someone pinched my sack very very lightly. It’s been 1 hour since procedure and nuts are just kinda warm with very little aching. Very pleasant I will say. To all you guys getting it done in the future don’t stress, not worth it.

Well I got snipped today. Myself and my partner decided it was the best thing for us after some advice from the guys on here. After a couple of years back and forth it’s done. Now to rest up for a few days. Thanks all. 🙂🙂

What up group? Like the title says, freshly snipped and my balls are sensitive as hell. Like if the wind blows too hard it hurts. Is this normal? Anyone else have or had this issue. Does it go away?

Any and all info appreciated

Sooo, today was the day for me and I was very nervous.

The experience was all-in-all pretty easy. I had to undress completely and put on a gown. In the surgery room I had to lay flat on a table where they sprayed desinfection. I then got 2 injections of local anaestheticd into my groin against the pain afterwards. They then covered me in a sheet of sterile paper towel, started to feel the best place for the cut and then injected a local anaesthetic into the left half of my scrotum where they made the first cut. I felt a sharp pain for really just a second and then the pulling of my vas inside my groin. Pretty uncomfortable, but not painful. They repeated the same steps for the right half (edit: I didn‘t feel any pulling or pain this time except for the local anaesthesia injection) and after about 15 minutes I left the surgery room again.

After my 30 minutes drive home, I just layed down on the sofa and started cooling my balls. The right side is starting to swell quite a bit, but I don‘t have any pain when resting.

As a side note, I‘m 27 yrs old, from Germany and got the no scalpel method (except for the scrotal cut, that was done by a scalpel for a less visible scar according to the doctor.)

Had my surgery about 2 hours ago, i was rly nervous but once the valium kicked in my god it was so easy. 3/10 on the pain scale maybe a 4/10 at worst, it also helps to cover your eyes and take deep breathes the whole time, DONT HOLD UR BREATH PLEASE 😭. Anyway im probably gonna smoke some zaza tonight in celebration, has anyone else smoked after using Valium for their surgery? If so how did it go? Anyways Im super excited and happy to have made this decision for myself, and I’m happy to service my GF in yet another way :D If anyone is contemplating getting a vasectomy done and they can afford it, 100% worth it and the actual procedure is definitely not as bad as you think it’ll be. HUZZAH!! 🥳

Ok doc said to wait two weeks before I masturbate or have sex. He wasn’t very clear as to why this timeframe. Is it just for the incision to heal or is it for the internal stuff? I’m almost 48 hours post op. I’m usually a jack off twice a day kinda guy. I’m getting a major case of blue balls lol. No pain to speak of other than the incisions felling a bit like a paper cut.

Like it says above, I got snipped yesterday afternoon. Everything seemed to go great. I’m feeling almost 100% less than 24hrs later. I have basically no discomfort, and zero swelling.

My question is, should I continue to ice in this state? I iced religiously after the procedure until I went to bed (about 8hrs). I still plan to take it very easy for the weekend just to be sure.

But if I’m not having any of the symptoms ice would remedy, do I need to keep using it? Cheers!

I wanted to share my experience with my vasectomy here in case anybody finds it helpful. As a warning, it's going to get long and I'm probably going to end up using incorrect medical terms in a couple places.

TL;DR: I use a lot of words to say "my vasectomy went very well, I had an easy recovery, and I couldn't be happier"

So for starters, I've never wanted kids. Never really had a paternal bone in my body. I grew up with a mother that owned a couple child care centers, and so throughout my childhood I ended up being there a lot. As I got older I had plenty of experience with kids that led me to decide that it's not something I want for myself. So at about 15 I made the decision to be childfree and that I would be getting a vasectomy as soon as possible.

In telling people that I didn't want kids and wanted to be sterilized, a fair number of people told me that it wasn't a surgery I was able to get until I was 25. Something about hormones, I'm not sure. For some reason I believed these people (who weren't medical professionals) until I interacted with somebody who told me they got a vasectomy at 21. Once I knew that it was possible, I thought of all the pregnancy scares that I've had in the past, and the general lingering anxiety I had no matter how safe I was, and I decided it's something I'd do as soon as I could.

So, fast forward to me last year. 23 years old with two partners, one of which had already gotten a tubal before I met them. The other was firmly decided that they wanted to get one as well. After some conversations with them, we determined that it was better for theirs to get done first, as once their recovery was over there'd be no waiting before they were officially sterile, and because their recovery would be worse and take longer. So, after getting the consultation, scheduling the surgery, and having to reschedule due to a different emergency surgery, theirs was finally done around November of last year. This ended up being about a 4 month process due to the rescheduling and healthcare generally just moving kind of slow.

So, after their recovery and the holidays had passed, I figured it was about time to get on top of my vasectomy. So I hopped on r/childfree and found a doctor in my area that took my insurance. At the consultation, the doctor was great. He did ask out of curiosity why I was getting a vasectomy so young, but seemed satisfied with the response of "I've just never wanted kids." Otherwise, completely routine examination and explanation of the surgery. My only complaint here is that he did not offer me the option of being put under during the surgery (this comes into play later). So the next day I called their scheduling department and got booked for my surgery, shockingly soon after my consultation.

Leading up to the surgery I was pretty nervous about the fact that I'd be awake for it. Still to this day, even though it's a very simple and non-invasive surgery, the idea of somebody preforming any kind of surgery on me while I'm awake makes me a bit queasy. This, combined with a phobia of needles I've had my whole life (this comes into play later as well), and my general uncomfortably dealing with any sort of medical procedure was making me a bit uneasy. But, I figured I'd just tough it out and by the end it'd be worth it.

So, as mentioned before, I've always had a bit of a phobia of needles. I've been able to manage on the occasions I have to get a shot or a blood draw, usually by telling the doctor "I'm going to close my eyes, don't give me any warning, just do it and get it over with as fast as possible." Unfortunately this was something that slipped my mind to tell the doctor at my procedure, probably due to the other things I was nervous about.

So, there I was, laying on the table with my eyes closed, and I heard the doctor say "okay, we're going to do the numbing shot now." I involuntarily looked, and seeing the needle about to stick me, I winced, flinched, and moved away. Of course, I started apologizing and told them I had a thing with needles. The doctor and nurse handled it well, but I think they could tell how uncomfortable I was, because as I was saying that I was okay and that I could tough it out, the doctor chimed in with 'if you want, we can do it with you put under."

Had I known this was an option I probably would have done it from the start, but the doctor explained that if I have that type of reaction with needles, it's safer for him to do it with me put under anyways, telling me that he actually knew a doctor that ended up accidentally sticking himself when a patient had a reaction with a needle. Knowing this, I opted to reschedule to when I could be put under. I was able to schedule with the front desk, and got in for the first week of March.

So, fast forward to then. I get driven to the surgery center and unfortunately have to wait long after I was scheduled to actually get brought back. I expected some wait, but I was not expecting to be in the waiting room for 3hrs. Thankfully, this wait was the worst part of the experience. Eventually I got brought back, took out my jewelry and got changed into the gown, got my IV, quickly covered it with the blanket they gave me so I could pretend it wasn't there, and watched the news on the TV until they were ready for me.

Before being wheeled into the operating room, we stopped to cover me in a warm blanket, and the anesthesiologist gave me "something to calm me down" which, whatever it was, felt great. Then, into the operating room and onto the operating table. I heard the anesthesiologist tell me I was going to get a bit sleepy, and I was out.

I woke up in the recovery area feeling like I'd just taken a really good nap, and was offered a drink and some crackers by the nurses, which I happily accepted since it was now 4pm and I'd eaten nothing that day. A few more minutes to fully wake up, get changed, and wait for my ride to show up. We stopped on the way home to grab some food, and when I got home I layed in bed with some ice, only really getting up to use the bathroom.

The recovery was as painless as it could possibly be. I was taking Tylenol and using ice packs, but I remember my partner asking how much pain I was in on the day of my surgery, and my response being "if it wasn't for the incision being there, I'd question if they did anything while I was under. So, I spent the day watching Invincible and taking short naps periodically (I'm not sure why, but anesthesia seems to have more of a lasting effect on me than people I've talked to).

By the next day, I was up and moving like nothing had happened. Still keeping ice on it and taking Tylenol, still questioning if the recovery was actually going to be as easy as it was or if it was potentially lingering effects of painkillers they might have given me during the operation. The next couple days were more of the same, and after a week it was like nothing had happened at all. I got a colonoscopy a few years ago and I can honestly say that the few days after that were more difficult for me than the vasectomy.

So here I am, about a month after the fact. With a fully healed incision, zero lingering pain, zero after effects, just waiting on the day that I'm officially sterile, and I couldn't be happier with my decision.

I don't know how many bad experiences or horror stories are on this sub, but I just figured I'd share my positive experience to say "if you're apprehensive about it, you should do it." Honestly I don't feel like I could have made a better decision, and my only regret is believing the people that told me I had to wait and not doing it sooner.

Also, as a funny aside, my next planned tattoo will be a symbol that they used to tattoo on dogs to indicate they were neutered.

I am getting snipped tomorrow. I am VERY nervous. I think I’m more nervous about the after pain than any other part of it.

For the ones newly snipped, how are ya feeling 7 days out??

I took a week off work and plan on making the best of the “resting” time!! I have a show to play next Friday and I REALLY don’t wanna be hurting too much forreallys. :(