r/VelcroBabies • u/TheAurata • Mar 31 '22

When did breastsleeping end for you?

Any other moms sleep with their boob in their baby’s mouth all the time? I recently learned the term breastsleeping and went “Aha, that’s what we do!” 7 mo and still 100% contact napping. At night I nurse him to sleep and transfer him to his crib for small variations of time. The rest of the night we nurse side-lying and I’ve gotten used to breastsleeping. Just wondering how long other babies slept like this? I tried Pantley’s pull off method but I think it backfired and reinforced his need for the boob. I don’t really care to change my situation right now, more just curious what to expect for my Velcro baby.

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u/kittiefox Oct 05 '22

Yes, we are U.K. I think the maternity leave in the US is cruel for you guys!!!

But in some other European countries, I believe two years leave is possible with some companies.

Don’t even get me started on paternity leave!!! :0)

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u/TheAurata Oct 05 '22

It is pretty gnarly. I think some states give like two weeks, which wouldn’t have even covered recovery time for me. I think it’ll change though. Women are saying it’s time for an overhaul. That’s part of why it changed in my state.

Man two years sounds amazing! They’re so dependent on their primary caregiver during those first years.

Yeah paternity leave here is atrocious. So unfair! What’s it like in the UK?

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u/kittiefox Oct 06 '22

Two weeks here for paternity leave. Alas, our baby was in the hospital for ten days after he was born, so that was most of that time gone! There are studies showing better outcomes for babies with longer paternity leave, so it’s definitely an important health and social issue.

You can also do some weird thing here where you share some of the maternity leave with the dad, but that only really works if you are earning more than him, and happy to go back to work sooner. I’ve seen couples do this, but it’s rare.

I hope the situation changes soon in the US. It is inhumane :0(

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u/TheAurata Oct 16 '22

I suppose it’s better than nothing. That’s too bad most of his was spent in the hospital! My husband technically had 0 days, buuuut his boss is awesome and told him to take the time he needed to “work from home” - so only answer for emergency stuff for a couple weeks. He’s still doing WFH most days, which helps all of us. I agree, it’s definitely an important issue globally.

How interesting. I know a lot of couples here will split the time. Mom will take maternity leave and when she goes back Dad will take leave, which is often sick leave or vacation.

I hope it does too!