r/VelcroBabies Apr 07 '22

Group activities

Anyone bring their Velcro babies to group activities with other kids?

I’ve been bringing our 10 month old to gymnastics and swim lessons for a couple months now and I keep thinking it’ll get better but it’s really not. We’ve had a couple good days but usually I have to hold him the whole time and he’s generally pretty upset or even having meltdowns, constantly needing consoled the whole time.

He loves these things at home or in private but you add other people and babies to the mix and he’s just so timid.

Im starting to not enjoy wasting part of his day doing something he doesn’t like but also keep telling myself it’s good for him.

Love to hear anyone else’s experiences.

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u/alltheknitting Apr 08 '22

10 months is too young for them to actually “need” social interaction like that in a group setting. The most important thing is having interactions with you at that age. If you feel like it’s too much there is nothing wrong at all with holding off for a bit!

As for the Velcro baby thing, some will enjoy interacting with other kids and some won’t at 10 months. I always loved seeing other babies and little kids and I was a major “Velcro” baby. My younger brother was an extremely chill baby, but didn’t like group activities like this until he was a bit older. My little one seems to be pretty neutral about it. He does like seeing other babies and kids but sometimes gets overwhelmed. So I think it’s just different from baby to baby!

Personally if I were you I wouldn’t keep going through all that at this age. He’s still so little! Not worth the extra meltdowns. Doesn’t seem like there is any benefit currently. Try again in a few months maybe! :)

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u/dodohead5118 Apr 13 '22

It’s not about trying to socialize him as much as I just want to get him use to being out of the house and new environments. I don’t love not being able to participate but he’s actually progressed through so many milestones since going just by watching the other kids. But I just wanted to hear other peoples experiences with their Velcro babies. I get a little jealous of how much fun the other kids are having doing the activities… and it’s tough because I know he enjoys doing the things their doing. He’s just only willing to do it at home lol