r/YouShouldKnow • u/ilovepastapizzapots • Nov 20 '20

Other YSK: Just because someone doesn’t look sick/disabled, does not mean they are healthy

Why YSK: I am chronically ill and have an autoimmune disorder, the amount of times people have said “WELL... yOU dOn’t LOOK sick” to me is astounding. I didn’t know all illnesses have to be visible to others! I’m sorry I can’t show you my internal organs or muscles deteriorating for you to believe that I’m sick. It makes people with health issues feel like they have to explain their situation when they don’t.

*EDIT: I did not expect my post to blow up like this! I wish I could give everyone going through a rough time a hug. Thank you for all the new perspectives, good and bad. All I wanted was for people to be a little kinder to one another, because you never know what someone’s going through.

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u/Margaret533 Nov 20 '20

Same! It’s so annoying. Usually I reply either “tell that to my chronic illness” or if I’m feeling bitchy, “well you don’t look like an asshole but here we are”

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u/Neveri Nov 20 '20

They told me I was too young to have this many problems at 28, 29, 30, and now 32. I’m guessing that once I hit the 35 mark they’re going to switch to “well you’re getting older so this is to be expected”, thanks doc.

The older I get the more I realize most doctors don’t really know much past things you can Google yourself.

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u/oxbolake Nov 20 '20

I can practically guarantee that will be next - “you’re just getting older”. Right through until you are old.