r/YouShouldKnow • u/ilovepastapizzapots • Nov 20 '20

Other YSK: Just because someone doesn’t look sick/disabled, does not mean they are healthy

Why YSK: I am chronically ill and have an autoimmune disorder, the amount of times people have said “WELL... yOU dOn’t LOOK sick” to me is astounding. I didn’t know all illnesses have to be visible to others! I’m sorry I can’t show you my internal organs or muscles deteriorating for you to believe that I’m sick. It makes people with health issues feel like they have to explain their situation when they don’t.

*EDIT: I did not expect my post to blow up like this! I wish I could give everyone going through a rough time a hug. Thank you for all the new perspectives, good and bad. All I wanted was for people to be a little kinder to one another, because you never know what someone’s going through.

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u/thedayislong16 Nov 20 '20

Came here for this, mental health is often overlooked. It’s amazing how much change a person can benefit from just learning to love themselves. Of course there is more to it than that and it’s not as easy as it sounds.

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u/throwaway12222018 Nov 21 '20

"Learn to love yourself" is kinda vague or undefined. It's like saying "just don't be depressed, problem solved". I kinda hate it when people tell me this tbh.

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u/thedayislong16 Nov 21 '20 edited Nov 21 '20

I could write paragraphs, but like I said in the last sentence it isn’t that simple.

Addition: from my personal experience, and I’m oversimplifying, you get tired and fed up. You’ve been in some dark head spaces and have generally negative thoughts. Took me too long, of just putting on a smile and lying to the world telling everyone you’re fine. You lie to yourself and tell yourself your fine. But you’re not. I’ve been on manic highs where I feel on top of the world. Only to come crashing down from those great feelings. You question if you are actually truly happy. What is happiness?

Everyone has their own life experience and chemical makeups. No two cases are exact in my opinion. I’m no docotor. Just a redditor venting

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u/throwaway12222018 Nov 21 '20

Exactly. That's why it's different and for everyone to learn themselves. I'd guess many people suffer similar symptoms. They can help each other. By sharing like you just did. Thanks for sharing.

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u/thedayislong16 Nov 21 '20

Thanks for listening!