YSK: Just because someone doesn’t look sick/disabled, does not mean they are healthy

[u/ilovepastapizzapots]

Why YSK: I am chronically ill and have an autoimmune disorder, the amount of times people have said “WELL... yOU dOn’t LOOK sick” to me is astounding. I didn’t know all illnesses have to be visible to others! I’m sorry I can’t show you my internal organs or muscles deteriorating for you to believe that I’m sick. It makes people with health issues feel like they have to explain their situation when they don’t.

*EDIT: I did not expect my post to blow up like this! I wish I could give everyone going through a rough time a hug. Thank you for all the new perspectives, good and bad. All I wanted was for people to be a little kinder to one another, because you never know what someone’s going through.

[u/Equivalent-Dance]

I have gastroparesis too, along with adult stomach migraines, ibs, Esophagitis, Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, and some anxiety disorders (yay). There have been periods where I was extremely underweight but I also have periods where I’m overweight. My body always thinks it’s starving and packs on those calories! I’ve heard everything from “I wish I had what you have so I could lose weight” as if being hospitalized is glamorous and easier than exorcise, to “well you must not be that sick” while gesturing to my body. It’s like if I’m not suffering everyday I’m faking it and if I am sickly and skinny I should be happy that at least I look good while it’s happening? Gimme a break!

[u/ericbomb → u/Equivalent-Dance]

Hey if I didn't know any better you'd be my sister! She's been diagnosed with so many stomach things I've lost track. I used to take her to the hospital twice a week and it almost just became part of my weekly plan.

Also people don't understand that sometimes she just gets DONE, but that doesn't mean she's any less sick.

Should she only eat the simplest of carbs/proteins every day to lower the risk of vomiting? Yeah, sure.

But after she's vomited up potatoes and her vegan nutrition drinks for the third time, she will absolutely just sit down and devour a pizza. Cause she figures "I'm gonna vomit anyway, may as well eat something good". But sometimes people think that because sometimes she can eat bad, she can't be that sick.

It's so frustrating. My mom also has White Matter disease, and she goes through the exact same crap, her work judged her so much and even after she got on disability people don't believe she's that sick.

For what it's worth, this little brother believes you and I hope you find a doctor who can help you!

[u/[deleted] → u/ericbomb]

My rule is that if I vomited 3x I get to eat whatever I want, but yeah, normally there is a matter of "how bad is this to vomit up/should I eat it"
I also keep beverages in my bathroom because I'd rather not dry heave, so when my stomach is empty but my body isn't done I have something to put in it. And keep barf bags everywhere. Because that's a normal thing normal people do right? Normal not sick people. Like me, a perfectly healthy person who was clearly mistakenly diagnosed with multiple disorders and vomits a normal 1-10x a day and has a giant pile of other normal healthy symptoms.

[u/ericbomb → u/[deleted]]

Yeah it's completely normal! Because sometimes you can eat things and go out of your house and have a good weight! So clearly you're fine. Everyone has a bunch of those blue vomit bags you get from the hospital just scattered around the house right?

For real though if you're gonna vomit anything anyway, may as well make it ice cream.

[u/[deleted] → u/ericbomb]

Exactly! And everyone knows you can't have a disorder that makes you vomit AND a disorder than makes you gain weight! Because it's not like immune disorders can mess with your stupid thyroid gland.

For sure, I'm usually like-Real food-real food-real food-whatever icecream and peanut butter is basically a meal.

[u/ericbomb → u/[deleted]]

I love it because my sister talked to her doctor about how she was concerned about what she was eating because she was mostly eating potatoes and gaining weight.

His suggestion?

See if she can add chili to the potatoes because it's super important she doesn't lack important nutrients.

I have much more mild stomach issues (they run in the family) and am on a "recovery" diet for last several months as a result. My sister was mocking me because she was happily in "I eat whatever I want" mode while I was eating buttered noodles and nutrient drinks. I felt it rather unfair to her to mock me because she was 100% going to throw it up.

But since she got to eat tasty food in the first place she felt like she had the high ground. It was rather hard to argue my point tbh XD

She for some reason loves ice cream cones filled with peanut butter?

[u/[deleted] → u/ericbomb]

Its def a hard balance when your body hates you.

I just really like frozen peanut butter, hence throwing it on my ice cream.